Ann Landers

Found this wonderful old column of her’s from RetroRenovation of all places:

JUST FOR TODAY – I will live through the next 12 hours and not try to tackle all life’s problems at once
JUST FOR TODAY – I will improve my mind. I will learn something useful. I will read something that requires effort, thought and concentration
JUST FOR TODAY – I will be agreeable. I will look my best, speak in a well-modulated voice, be courteous and considerate.
JUST FOR TODAY – I will not find fault with friend, relative or colleague. I will not try to change or improve anyone but myself.
JUST FOR TODAY – I will have a program. I might not follow it exactly but I will have it. I will save myself from two enemies – hurry and indecision.
JUST FOR TODAY – I will exercise my character in three ways. I will do a good turn and keep it a secret. If anyone finds out it won’t count.
JUST FOR TODAY – I will do two things I don’t want to do, just for the exercise.
JUST FOR TODAY – I will be unafraid. Especially will I be unafraid to enjoy what is beautiful and believe that as I give to the world, the world will give to me.

Postscript – Amy is absolutely correct from what I see. How odd the original column was run without attributing it correctly.

Y2K-8?

Bermuda Triangle?

Murphy’s Law?

Tell you what, it’s something. We could call this the summer of The Great Appliance Meltdown. Let’s see. I told you about the stove. The dishwasher. The microwave came before those. The van has been jumped on multiple occasions. Well this weekend the water heater started sputtering as we were leaving for church. After investigating, Allen discovered the propane tank was empty. That was sort of good bad news because it meant it wasn’t the boiler but the gas that was faulty. Somehow we fell through a crack in the summer delivery route and ran dry. That meant however that we are down to the “extra” (read ratty) fridge and cold water at the moment. Let me just say washing dishes by hand was more delightful with hot water. So were showers.

We are working hard to maintain our sense of humor. Some days we are more successful than others. I have one other motto which is that this is not a bad way to suffer. You have to be careful who you share mottoes like those with however or you run out of people to whine to. They tend to do things like repeat your mottoes back to you. Darn. Truly though as Christians we know we are to take up a cross. In the whole big picture these are itty bitty crosses compared to chemotherapy, car accidents, nuclear war, or POW camp. Granted they are itty bitty like an angry hornet at times – small but packing a punch.

So, it is that. Wish me well and I will be back to you soon if I promised a response or answer to a question. Aside from the aforementioned little disasters we had cabinets for Allen to repair and are refinishing a desk. Oh and that trim. While I may wish for summer to linger longer, time waits for no man so we toil while the sun shines here and hope for the best.

A picture thought for Monday – Alannah by the ocean, with no appliances in sight….

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High Desert wisdom

You probably figured out I get caught up on one or two blogs a day. Yesterday it was High Desert Home. I found myself nodding in agreement over and over.

From Simple Beauty at Home:

A home, no matter how simple, should be warm and inviting. There should be life and energy, laughter and fun, creativity and joy there. While there should be that peace that comes from order, it is dispiriting to think we need to maintain perfect order. My aim is to live simply enough that disorder or caring for too many things won’t tyrannize my peace of mind or pleasant rhythms or steal the hours away from my relationships

In streamlining one’s life and possessions, beauty and style are not being rejected. Rather, the “beauty of the few,” as Anne Morrow Lindbergh described it, is being embraced.

On work:

Work is good for me. It is good for my home. It is good for my family. And it does bring peace and rest and lightness of heart.

On routines:

A simple, but disciplined, daily routine is a nice scaffolding for keeping all of the work and activity of my days relaxed, pleasant, and orderly-enough. And since I tend toward overstimulation, distraction, and maybe even a bit of laziness, this is important for me. When I stray too far from my routines (these are not strict schedules), I increasingly seem to flounder in the areas that matter most– personal spirituality and life in community.

One cannot collect all the beautiful shells on the beach. One can collect only a few, and they are more beautiful if they are few. – Anne Morrow Lindbergh

Photoseashells

Clothespin dolls

I just caught up on the Allsorts blog and was immediately taken with the Dollipops dolls. SO cute! I am not enjoying an abundance of free time so I have been filing ideas more than following up. Still, these are promising. There is a basic doll tutorial here but they are not the exact same dolls. Dollipops and others like them have an extra wood bead for the head which to me makes them ever so much nicer. The little dolls in the pouch here would make very nice tiny toys however.

these are from Sweet Imaginations

Dolls

Fun Felt food!

Felt Food has been a bit of an obsession of mine of late. I ran across some on a blog and then began the hunt. In the interest of having a frugal, handmade Christmas we are trying to find some crafty gifts that would actually be used. I think we hit the jackpot here! It seems to me that if you looked carefully at the images you could reproduce many of these (at least the 2D ones) minus a pattern. I will let you know if this is not the case. The girls and I are going to give this a whirl. Felt is cheap and forgiving. It doesn’t unravel so no seams are necessary.

Flickr Felt food group

felt eggs and oranges tutorial

a smorgasbord!

etsy felt food

a google search will turn up tons

Self Directed Learning – what it is and isn’t

I apologize for the tardiness in addressing many questions. We are pushing hard this summer while I am still mobile. Pregnancies have historically brought me to the couch by this time so every day has been a rare blessing. (For some odd reason I think the goat’s milk has had a miraculous effect on the contractions because the last pregnancy was also much better than the first 7) Even without the contractions however, we seem to be fielding a series of minor and not so minor challenges which keep a person on their toes. I have never been more grateful for a workable routine!

As I have said, self-direction plays a big role in that routine. To help explain what that means (and as importantly what it does not mean) I am quoting some text from different sites.

First

the Montessori method is characterized by an emphasis on self-directed activity on the part of the child and clinical observation on the part of the teacher (often called a “director”, “directress”, or “guide”). It stresses the importance of adapting the child’s learning environment to his or her developmental level, and of the role of physical activity in absorbing academic concepts and practical skills. It is also characterized by the use of autodidactic (self-correcting) equipment to introduce various concepts.”

Self-correcting material allows children a greater measure of independence and efficiency in their work. They are not waiting on the teacher and can see at once when they have made a mistake so there is no repeating it and thus reinforcing an erroneous habit.

In Montessori programs, children do not work for grades or external rewards, nor do they simply complete assignments given them by their teachers. Children learn because they are interested in things, and because all children share a desire to become competent and independent human beings.

Montessori children enjoy considerable freedom of movement and choice, however their freedom always exists within carefully defined limits on the range of their behavior.

Although the teacher employs less direct instruction she is nevertheless a vital part of the process. She must be:

Authoritative: The teacher is firm at the edges and empathetic at the center, the kind of adult who responds empathetically to children’s feelings, while setting clear and consistent limits.

Observer: The Montessori teacher is a trainer observer of children’s learning and behavior. These careful observation are recorded and used to infer where each student is in terms of his or her development, and leads the teacher to know when to intervene in the child’s learning with a new lesson, a fresh challenge, or a reinforcement of basic groundrules.

An Educational Resource: Montessori teachers facilitate the learning process by serving as a resource to whom the children can turn as they pull together information, impressions, and experiences.

Role Model: Like all great teachers, the Montessori educator deliberately models the behaviors and attitudes that she is working to instill in her students. Because of Montessori’s emphasis on character development, the Montessori teacher normally is exceptionally calm, kind, warm, and polite to each child.

How does that play out daily? She is to:

Respectfully Engage With The Learner: The Montessori teacher recognizes that her role is not so much to teach as to inspire, mentor, and facilitate the learning process. The real work of learning belongs to the individual child. Because of this, the Montessori educator remains conscious of her role in helping each child to fulfill his potential as a human being and of creating an environment for learning within which children will feel safe, cherished, and empowered.

Facilitate The “Match” Between The Learner And Knowledge: Montessori teachers are trained to identify the best response to the changing interests and needs of each child as a unique individual. Because they truly accept that children learn in many different ways and at their own pace, Montessori educators understand that they must “follow the child,” adjusting their strategies and timetable to fit the development of each of their pupils.

Environmental Engineer: Montessori teachers organize appropriate social settings and academic programs for children at their own level of development. They do this to a large degree through the design of the classroom, selection and organization of learning activities, and structure of the day.

These principles are not limited to Montessorians however. It is explained here that Charlotte Mason felt similarly. Four CM goals:

1) Children should be free in their play.
2) Organized Games are not play. (let them use their imaginations)
3) Personal Initiative in Work. (give them time for their own projects)
4) Children must stand or fall by their own Efforts. (allow children to fail)

These principles are summed up in a term Mason coined, Masterly Inactivity:

Masterly Inactivity is taken up in Volume 3, Chapter 3. The key to avoiding stress for Mom! Train your child, develop Habits, and then let them go. Attention to the training in early years is the key – do not allow children to develop weak or bad habits that must be changed. This is not Unschooling – the child is trained in an area until the parents know that they may be left unsupervised.

From Vol. 1, pg 134; “the education of habit is successful in so far as it enables the mother to let her children alone, not teasing them with perpetual commands and directions; but letting them go their own way and grow, having first secured that they will go the right way and grow to fruitful purpose.”

Therefore this is no willy nilly approach. Thoughtful preparation prefaces the learning, however, ultimately the learning must be done by the student. For the busy homeschool mom this means that you can set the stage at the beginning of the year and the children can soar no matter what life throws at you, and it has thrown a good deal at us over the years – 13 moves, ten pregnancies, twice as many surgeries, deployments. School goes on however and goes on quite smoothly with delightful literature, judicious amounts of drill, music, engaging hands on activities, LOTS of outdoor time, and handwork, which I hope to discuss in greater detail before summer is over.

There are options for all of these that allow mom to jump in and out as needed. They can be done at flexible times of day. Some of our best progress during difficult times with Dad gone, mom in bed, or running back and forth to a hospital were in the quiet evening hours. Think outside the box. Standing before the class daily is not only not possible for many folks but as Montessori and others have discovered it is also one of the least effective techniques. Therefore, don’t feel obligated to recreate this scenario. Don’t feel that you have abandoned teaching or sold out either. It is simply a different road, one which has taken us some truly lovely places.

Note: As a rule it is best to keep everyone in your line of vision even when they are working independently. The younger the child the more crucial this is. Remember the scripture, “Children left to the themselves bring shame to their mothers.” This is where freedom within limits comes in. Keep them busy but keep them close so you can observe carefully for this is the critical component if you are to facilitate effectively. Little foxes spoil the vine. Just as self-correcting material prevents the repetition of academic mistakes, close contact with mom prevents the repetition of undesirable behavior. I have learned the hard way at times so I don’t preach from on high. “An ounce of prevention worth a pound of cure” and all.

Art baskets

Here is an awesome combination of art and independent study. This Montessori mom has been creating baskets of individual artists. She includes a small wee folk figure of the artist, books about the artist, prints of the work, and an object symbolizing that artist. She makes the first presentation at circle time and then the basket returns to the shelf (or windowsill or whatnot) for the children to peruse at their leisure. It is a great spin on the book basket to include multisensory objects to explore along with the books. I would think this would really draw the children in without having a ton of extra lesson presentations. One per term would suffice.

Librivox

Librivox, where have you been all my life? Project Gutenberg and all of its ilk have been beloved to me for some time for providing free access to the classics. Little did I know much of the same content is READ ALOUD on Librivox. Also for free. My favorite.

My favorite radio station doesn’t like Safari so its been quiet in the kitchen. Now I have Librivox for those slow dishes. Lucky woman I am! Not only do I have KP duty company but I just cloned myself for read alouds.

So it was one of those days

Days in plural perhaps. Our technology has failed in a series – first the iphoto, then the car needed a jump (as the seven of us were loaded, buckled, and heading out to the midwife), and the dishwasher died. Worst of all, the electric fence won’t charge mysteriously. We replaced the battery, checked for weeds and other obstructions. No luck. this is a bad thing because goats need to be outside. They will need a goatherd this week. I bet the Amish don’t have these problems. Sometimes I wish we hadn’t ever begun to rely on these “helps” because it is such a disruption when they peeter out on us.

Nevertheless we ended the week in a whirlwind of activity. I gutted the little boys room – again. Made a command decision that we are done storing multiple sizes of clothing. If you are the person who asked me how I handle stored clothes, the answer is “not very well”. I manage the possessions we use daily just swell. Those that are to be sorted and stored and rotated regularly make my head spin, particularly when children periodically feel compelled to rummage through the storage. (why oh why?) So I have bagged a good deal of it up to return it to thrift shop circulation this week.

The girls arrived in from camp around dinner time yesterday. Woo hoo! Alannah had a quick turn for her next week of travel with her Dad.

Today was rough. Between the clothes sorting and the dishwasher fiasco and getting them out the door at 5am I should have seen what was coming and just stayed home. I hate to do that though so I packed us all off to church. Got there 45min early because I hadn’t gotten the note about choir practice being cancelled. Brendan was out of sorts which didn’t bode well. The boys had class afterwards but by then I was done in and my blood sugar was bottoming out. We went home.

Brendan, despite his inexplicable behavior has a way of stopping you in your tracks. I overheard him talking to Moira about his hair. He remarked that hers was brown. That got him thinking of his apparently. He told her “I have yellow hair on my head…and it is boo-da-ful”. I had to smile. I had to slow down.

It is funny how things can turn around if you do just slow down and take a deep breath. I am reading a wonderful book I hope to quote from this week about doing just that. I reminded myself about the passages advising doing one thing at a time. I reminded myself about the articles the Gypsy Lady and I have shared this week about childcare and keeping everyone close at hand. I did both. We made dinner together. I read them read our new library books during dinner. We cleared the table and Colin took them out to play. A cool breeze swept through the kitchen and I dove in to those dishes, by hand. It was slow but it was therapeutic. The warm water, the children’s voices wafting in here and there. I felt my breath coming slower and deeper. All is well.

And now, I need to round up that ‘boo-da-ful’ little man and his compadres from the advancing darkness, wrap them in superhero jammies and tuck them in bed, smelling that yellow hair and reminding myself how really lucky I am. That is my next “one thing” tonight, one in series of many things I hope not to lose sight of in a flurry of activity and minor frustrations that life can become if we aren’t mindful.