Simple Woman’s Daybook – belated edition

(more daybooks at Peggy's )

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FOR TODAY Dec 31st, 2010

Outside my window… overcast and snowy. I was out early this morning and saw two deer in the meadow.  There were also a few cars which had slid off the road.  (I actually looked that up.  "Had slid" sounds funny doesn't it?) This is the time of year when I am glad to have a 4 wheel drive.  Try to get a smart car up our hill, why doncha. ; ) 

I am hearing… Abbie telling me about her new shape sorter.  This is music to my ears since for the whole week before she mostly sounded like Ozzie Osbourne, with generally unintelligible complaints. 

From the learning rooms…    Discussions about debt, loans, house payments, and the pro's and con's of immediate entry into the work force vs college degrees.  This over the Life board game the other night <g> The boys got watercolor pencils and are working through their St Dominic Savio color books.

Back to school for mom next week.  I am running with the idea you CAN teach an old dog new tricks. : ) 

From the kitchen…  a simple Christmas dinner last weekend -roast beef, boiled potatoes (too lazy to peel and mash) and mushroom gravy, green beans, cranberry sauce, relish tray.  We had a good talk about the cranberries which made me think.  My first thought was to look at our dinner as sort of flunkie holiday fare.  We spent the week prior in the hospital and the week before that traveling. I made the dinner at home with sick girls while dh and kids were at church.  It was pretty straight forward since a roast just sits in the oven and the rest warmed in pots on the stovetop. There was no multi-step dressing, no casseroles, no painstakingly marinated organic turkeys.   Jars and cans and heat, I thought.  That couldn't 'count'.  

Then I thought, says who?  I have shared before that all the years growing up my Gram was known for her wonderful meals. And yet she made very little "from scratch". Cream of mushroom soup  made gravy for ground beef, and we tried every variety of Betty Crocker potato casserole. Countless variations of jello and pudding/Cream Whip desserts. And yes, there were always jellied cranberries sliced into perfect rounds and fanned onto a plate just so – just like all the homemakers in our neck of the woods were preparing for their clans.  Apparently no one told them it 'didn't count'.  Truth is, even today my husband and children and likely all my blood relatives would sooner cancel a holiday dinner than willingly consume a whole cranberry.  And while homemade bread is lovely, they really want brown and serve rolls at get togethers. 

So surveying this spread the other night through 1970's eyes I patted myself on the back. It WAS a nice dinner. They loved it. I have duly noted that the world my head circulates in online – while often creatively stimulating – is very different from the world of people I actually circulate with in real life.  Art should be imitating life, not vice versa.  I think the internet sometimes has us up-ending that process.  

 I am thankful for…  returning health, friends that we are close enough to to miss dearly at the holidays, board games which go on for hours, and a long talk with my husband all wrapped up in a blanket with a sick baby girl sprawled across our laps.  

I am wearing… boot cut jeans and deep rust colored 3/4 sleeve lacy tee.  Most exciting about this get up?  It is topped with Estee Lauder Beautiful perfume from my stocking.  Estee original was a signature scent of the women in my family.  One whiff and I see them in my mind's eye immediately. I wore White Linen for years and then Beautiful. Then stopped.  It just sort of didn't get replaced at some point.  On a date night last month I paused at the Estee aisle, remembering.  Someone else remembered too.  : )  Much appreciated!

I am reading… Managers of Their Schools.  It just arrived and I hope to get through it this weekend. We have learned at home for two decades now, but not always the way we have come to do this in the past few years. I am revisiting Joyce Swann articles and thoughtfully reading through Steve Maxwell's Redeeming the Time book as well. I do this regularly since this counsel is not circulated nor discussed widely given that the common opinion is that structured, rigorous homeschooling cannot or should not happen in a big family. I am encouraged to see that it can be done, although it is really important to know the level of commitment involved and what else can NOT be done at the same time.  Like, daily blogging in my case. ; o 

Pondering these words… 

"We have grown up with the "mine" mindset. We can live our lives thinking we own our time and we can do what we want with it. That doesn't change the reailty that it is really God's time. If we will submit to God's ownership of our time, we will view our time in a totally different perspective…" Steve Maxwell

Thought for the new year – God gave me each irreplaceable minute for a reason.  What would He have me do with this one? and the next? Is what I am doing this minute meshing with His will? Is it leading me closer to heaven?  Is it leading my children closer to heaven? How can I make the very most of this time? 

These thoughts are foremost at this moment in my life. 

Around the house…. there wasn't much mess this year. Things are simplifying and likely will continue. We have watched our neighbors this Christmas and taken note there too.  There were no Christmas campaigns in local stores.  No toy sales.  Just a modest selection of ornaments and a generous selection of non-cartoon chocolate.  Folks gathered around high tables and low bonfires at Christmas markets which featured mainly food and hot gluhwein.

On Christmas eve the neighbors brought  a potted tree to their elderly mother who lives on the ground floor apartment in their home. Alannah's German friends talked about reading Christmas stories and praying and going to mass. Some exchanged small gifts like model craft supplies. Lots of food and visiting. (seeing a theme here? )  And you know what?  There is no "Christmas stress" there.  No "Christmas crowds". 

By contrast Asher, who is working at our base exchange store said it was appalling to hear customers yell and argue on their cell phones over last minute shopping woes. The bases brought in extra dumpsters just for all the holiday trash. Not so here in the village. In this place it really stands out and makes you think.  Simple is as simple does. 

I am creating…  I started that French cross stitch on vacation and have picked it up again a few times at home.  Then took apart a $3 pair of men's tan corduroys (new at that!)  from the thrift shop and am cutting out skirts for the little girls. 

A few plans for the rest of the week(end)…  The week passed by with no blogging.  In it's place was closet cleaning, a library run, evening walks after dark.  There was a sledding party and lots of wooden train track building and play silk cape wearing.  The weekend will bring a couple trips to the chapel and movies under a blanket if all goes well.  

 A picture thought I am sharing…

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A Bethlehem Christmas

This week has played out much differently than expected.  We came home from our trip and quickly had two very sick little girls.  Abbie was admitted to the hospital with RSV which morphed into pneumonia.  Not what we thought we would be doing this Christmas.  But then again, there was another family on another Christmas who found themselves face to face with circumstances completely contrary to their plans. Surely it was no mistake that the first thing the Holy Family modeled for us was how to respond when life plays out totally differently than you hoped. 

So there are no cards in the mail this year.  There will be no parties and we will have to send half the family to mass.  This Christmas, like the first one, is all about caring for a small child. And St. Francis would say that this is perfect joy.  The only thing that God ever really wants from me, this season or any other, is trustful surrender. 

I hope your family has a most blessed Christmas. I will be back when the dust settles a bit. : ) 

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scenes from Bavaria this winter

 

7 Quick Takes

(more takes at Jen's)

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It was a bracing 14 degrees in sunny Bavaria when we headed out late yesterday morning for castles Hohenschwangau and Neuschwanstein. 14 degrees in Bavaria in December does not turn into 40 later in the day.  As the tour guide said, it is winter half the year here.  The rest of the time it is cold and damp. ; ) This made for a rather brisk hike up the hill between the pair of schlosses. (Is schlosses a word? schlossen?)  The little ones struggled through the tour but we were thrilled to be able to show them all.  

It is a strange feeling to be in this place, so far from home, yet oddly familiar this third time around.  As he watched Asher carry Abbie up the hill Allen was talking about us making this same ascent carrying Colin 24 years ago.  You just never know where life is taking you. 

2.

We have found the alphabet (car) game to be far less a challenge in Germany… at least until you get to X.  

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Today the bigs and their Dad are taking the cog up the Zugspitz while the little girls and I hang out at the house. I have been there and the little girls were unlikely to appreciate the polar environment at the peak. Abbie says we are having a party.  It feels like that!  I know for myself that I can truly relax and indulge in copious amounts of tea and books and naps guilt free when I am away from home and certain that there is nothing else I should be doing. I love my home.  I will be glad to go back.  But sometimes even a homemaker needs to be removed from the workplace to really kick back. 

In that spirit, I am going to start a monochromatic French cross stitch that looks like it would stitch up quickly. 

4.

I have noticed that the windows in Bavaria, while still sporting lace, often have lace tie backs as well as the valances so prevalent further north. I was thinking back to those seen in homes I knew growing up.  Do you remember dotted Swiss?  And pom pom fringe trim?  If you read the comment on the Christmas past post there was a good point made.  We have such a variety of products and style in America today that there is no longer an identifying style in American homes. There is not that variety available here and the home we are staying in, as well as its neighbors, looks much like those I stayed in during the early 80's and heaven knows how long before that.  

That made me think of my Gram's living room re-do shortly before she died. The one thing that struck me when I sat in her living room that last time was the curtains.  There were new Roman shades and smartly striped panels intended by well meaning daughters to update the home.  Very tailored and stylish.  They actually looked better aesthetically than what came before.  But they didn't look like Gram any more. Though I have toyed with redecorating many times I am reminded that when we filled the china cabinet and hung the crochet valances in our new home this past summer a child passed through the room and said, "Oh!  It looks like our house now."  Who are we decorating for? The 'market'? Or our family? 

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In a similar vein, Alannah was saying one of her German friends has two trees because their father thinks a tree should only have straw ornaments like these and stars and the girls of the family like the American style colored balls. I had to laugh.  I like both and may graduate to two trees next year to accommodate my growing collection.  Insert Fiddler on the Roof chorus here…

6.

I am totally absorbed in an Irish novel found in the bookcase here at the house.  It was only after a half dozen chapters that I read the reviews and all the conflicting opinions regarding which parties and groups the novel supposedly condemns and indicts. (assuming a work of fiction can truly indict at all)  Perhaps it is better that way.  I had already become engaged and must finish now.  

I am not a reader who takes a story of personal tragedy and necessarily applies generalities about denomination, politics and class.  This world is a vale of tears wherever you live and we each respond to injustice and tragedy in our own ways. But we do not – cannot – entirely avoid either – whether religious, faithless, wealthy, or poor.  As I keep saying, we do not get to choose how people treat us, we only get to choose how we will respond. I love this line:

"Perhaps his happiness was curiously unfounded. But cannot a man make himself as happy as he can in the strange long reaches of life? I think it is legitimate. After all the world is indeed beautiful and if we were any other creature than man we might be continuously happy in it."  - Sebastian Barry

7.

An aside which I think relates is a conversation husband and I had yesterday. We both take pictures while traveling.  He tends to take the sweeping landscapes and I gravitate towards the close-in shots. He is about the big picture, and the literal. Mine is the tiny details, the impressionistic, the analogous.  We are a good team. I think these different perspectives impact how we respond and analyze things as varied as travel photography and novel reading.

 

Tea, books and cross stitch chart beckon on that note.  Will talk to you again when we get back home. Have a marvelous weekend. 

Simple Woman’s Daybook – the Munich and ER edition

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FOR TODAY Nov. 8, 2010

Outside my window… sunrise and slush.  We had impressive snowfall the past few weeks followed by rain which left things a bit soggy.  The sunrise over the trees has been new and different daily.  It has become a ritual of mine to see what the day brings us in that regard. I am rarely disappointed. 

I am hearing… about 50% less than I was last week this time. It's been a rough week. We had a seemingly mild,  but surprisingly hard to shake, virus run through the house.  I honestly didn't feel terribly sick at all comparatively.  (though it is possible my pain perspective is a bit skewed)  Within a couple days my ear filled up, infected, and the eardrum ruptured.  Just. Like. That. At this writing there is still incredible pressure and hearing loss, which I am praying is reversible.  I am sporting a cotton ball, even broke down and am taking medication, and having flashbacks to my 6yo self – post ear tube surgery.  And let me tell you an ear tube would probably provide a good deal of relief at this moment. : / 

 Pondering these words…

"I had said to God, 'You know I have no time to be ill.' I was heard beyond my hopes and I boasted of it to myself a little. Then He seemed to answer, 'Since you have no time to be ill perhaps you will have time for much trouble?' And I assure you I have not been spared. You see, in this world it is like that. We must carry the cross in one way or another.  We say to our Lord, 'I don't want that.' Often He hears us but often alas! for our unhappiness. It is better to take patiently what comes to us. There is always joy beside the pain." – Zelie Martin (linked below)

There is always joy beside the pain. 

From the learning rooms…   Second quarter is off to a strong start.  I am more confident we will finish strong now that we have a better idea of what to focus upon for the quarter grades and what the school is expecting. It is challenging but the younger the student the easier the transition has been and the quicker they have developed the necessary study skills. 

From the kitchen… silly surprises. I was in a foggy viral daze the other day when I started cracking eggs.  I vaguely noticed some marker on the top of the egg in hand and assumed our grafitti artist had been there too. Then happened to look closer at the carton and realized I had been punked.  ; )  

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Not a bad way to start the day.  They do keep me laughing lol. 

 I am thankful for…  an opportunity Asher and Alannah had to spend the weekend in Munich with the young people from our tiny chapel.  They have been invited on several occasions but it's too far to drive and drop off and we didn't want Alannah to tackle the train alone.  Asher's arrival made this time possible. Alannah talked by phone with an older German friend who walked us through the ticketing and itinerary.  Another girl, also traveling to the Munich gathering met them at their second to last train change (there were many of them on an 8 hr journey!) and helped navigate the rest of the way. 

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(with her German friend en route)
It was a short but memorable weekend of games and fun and fellowship. 

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We are so proud of them that they figured it all out and so pleased they are getting to make these connections.  

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(rectory)

I am wearing… likely boot cut jeans and a sweater. And boots for that slush. And a slouchy hat over my cotton ball'd ear. Does this sound attractive or what lol?  Heading out to shop for Tess' birthday cake supplies in a bit.  I was rereading some of Helen's (Castle of the Immaculate) thoughts about ironing (and generally preparing for church further in advance) here and thought I would share.  I absolutely agree.  It is a small thing that does say alot. Coming from a military home we realize that while appearance is not the most important thing it DOES convey a loud message about our self respect and the respect we wish to show to others. 

Around the house…. more little Christmas tea light holders from the thrift shop.  Reorganized the girls wardrobe/closet this wknd.  It was one big laundry basket.  Much better now. They really need a second pole for hangers. 

More house inspiration here on Flickr – which seems to be where I hang out online more and more. (Very encouraging, that community is!)  The corners of this home are so soothing and simple and vintage. 

I am creating… Christmas gifts which may arrive on time but more than likely not. Here is hoping. I hope to bring some hand sewing on our trip for a change of pace.   Need some inspiration?  Check out these adorable carolers.  

I am reading…  Finishing the Story of a Family finally.  It's been years of on and off reading.  At this age and stage of life, and what it has thrown at me,  I can relate to Zelie Martin.  I cannot tell you how she inspires me. 

A few plans for the rest of the week…  Bavaria!  Though there will be no Zugspitz for me this year.  There will be castles and snow and a warm house in the mountains however. I'll take it. : ) 

Tess will kick off her four year old year in the Alps. amazing to me still.

A picture thought I am sharing…

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at the rectory in Munich

Thrift Thursday

Why not?   

A few fun finds of late…

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Found this nativity stable just yesterday after writing about my old one.  It looks very like the one my Gram had.  It came sans figures and I am not sure what will go into it just yet. Will see how the Christmas markets pan out.  It has a tiny light inside and a little pull cord on the back to switch it on and off.  Was had for the equivalent of less than five dollars. 

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Little retro Santa tea light holder. Now sitting right here on my desk. 

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Finally – look who jumped in the car?  A homeless gnome is a terrible thing.  A trio of them is downright tragic.  They have been relocated to my living room.  Go ahead.  Smile : D 

More thrifted fun on Flickr. 

Anyone else been junking lately? 

The Ghosts of Christmas past

It started with an article in Country Living over breakfast.  I love things old and kitchy.   So does this woman.   She has created a whole blog to showcase a different one of her collections each day this year.   I loved the retro colored lights.  A lot.  They reminded me of Anna's.  Which got me off on a tangent thinking about trees of Christmas past.  

A big Christmas love of mine growing up was our set of bubble lights.  They are available here and would actually look nicer on my tree than the originals but somehow aren't the same.  Ours looked like these.  

Another fave of mine are midcentury glass ornaments.  The German stores still make many like these.  

My Gram made beaded egg ornaments from kits purchased through the Herschner's catalog.   I may just try a kit myself though it seems like Gram's "projects" which came off so seemingly effortlessly confound me to no end.  Yet I think I may try.  

Bead ornament

Then one link led to another and I found myself face to face with these choir boys.  Oh bliss!  My mother had similar retro seasonal candles for all the years I lived at home.  We never actually lit them.  

Choir candles

My little nativity set has not fared well.  There is still a stable and a few people.  Not many though.  It very very like this one – well, minus the action figures….

How about you?  What says Christmas to you?