A New Command

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Some moments hit you that way. I realize that this is no longer just my story but a complex, interwoven story that is ours, theirs. The love among these brothers and sisters, between them and us, between each other – it is complicated, messy, and tangible.

 It is shown by the one who volunteers to be the designated dance parent driving to a downtown hotel in a busy metro area.  

It is shown by the one remaining home to tackle nagging chores that have been chipping away at morale. 

It is shown by a brother and his girlfriend proudly surprising mother and sisters with chocolate and flowers.

It is shown by a sister, awake early and carefully readying her sister for competition. 

It is shown by a brother bringing his baby to his brother's condo to catch up. 

It is shown every time the faraway siblings take time off work and make the long trek home to be there for one of the others. 

 

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"A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another."  - John 13:34-35

 

 

Keep Your Lamp Lit

If you don’t follow Lindsay Boever of My Child, I Love You on Instagram I want to tell you to go read her posts from this week.  I have long admired her most inspiring mother.  Here she shares some of the hardest hitting, truest truths about marriage and family and who would like to see us fail at both. 

The little Mother Love book does not mince words when composing prayers. In one, we beseech heaven:  

“Preserve us, Almighty God, from the deceits of the evil spirits, and from the malicious or perhaps well-meant though foolish language and counsels of silly people.”

Friends and I were remarking recently that it is entirely possible for someone to win a debate using a seemingly airtight argument and yet still be wrong. Of course the inverse is also true.  In the end this is not about looking good or being right in anyone else’s eyes.  It’s about the messy work of saving our souls.  Odds are good it’s going to be a bumpy ride. 

“I have noticed that we all get to experience each of the sufferings our Lord did with His apostles – betrayal, abandonment, isolation, grief. If you haven’t yet, you will at some point in your lifetime. It might be through your spouse, your child, or another person.
It’s how we share in the Cross.” 

God bless your efforts to know, love, and serve Him in this world and to be happy with Him forever in the next.  

 

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A year with Lucy

One year ago Avery's other grandma and I had just made a rather white knuckled trek across town from the hospital where we had spent the previous day and half while Avery was born and settled in. We were pretty groggy and just sat down to eat our first real meal in a couple days when I got the texts from Moira saying she thought she was in labor. A flurry of thoughts ran through my head.  I quickly scrambled to call my husband.  Could we get there if we left now?  I had SO hoped to attend both granddaughters' births.  Lucy was wasting no time, however, and the snow was not letting up.  I spent the next couple of hours on the phone with Moira's wonderful sister in law who gave a fabulous play by play update until our little Lulu made her entrance. 

Lucy has been her own little person, completely different from her big brother, as babies often are. Chill, curious, laid back. She just quietly stood up and walked a few weeks ago, the way she does things – no fanfare. Each of these children take up their own space in my heart and I am so very grateful for them and happy they will have each other going through life.  

 

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The Lights We Bear

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It was a beautiful morning for Candelmas today. We got up before dawn to make it to the early mass and procession in the neighborhood around the church. The tiny smoke trails wafting up from the children's candles in front of the colored glass windows as the sun poured in nearly took my breath away. 

 

This is an ancient celebration of the Church we repeat in our day. Alban Butler tells us:

The procession with lighted tapers on this day is mentioned by pope Gelasius I., also by St. Ildefonsus, St. Eligius,St. Sophronius, patriarch of Jerusalem, St. Cyril of Alexandria, &c., in their sermons on this festival. St. Bernard says,

"This holy procession was first made by the virgin mother, St. Joseph, holy Simeon, and Anne, to be afterwards performed in all places and by every nation, with the exultation of the whole earth, to honor this mystery."

In his second sermon on this feast he describes it thus: "They walk two and two, holding in their hands candles lighted, not from common fire, but from that which had been first blessed in the church by the priests, and singing in the ways of the Lord, because great is his glory."

He shows that the concurrence of many in the procession and prayer is a symbol of our union and charity, and renders our praises the more honorable and acceptable to God.

We walk while we sing to God, to denote that to stand still in the paths of virtue is to go back.

The lights we bear in our hands represent the divine fire of love with which our hearts ought to be inflamed, and which we are to offer to God without any mixture of strange fire, the fire of concupiscence, envy, ambition, or the love of creatures.

We also hold these lights in our hands to honor Christ, and to acknowledge him as the true light, whom they represent under this character, and who is called by holy Simeon in this mystery,  a light for the enlightening of the Gentiles; for he came to dispel our spiritual darkness.

The candles likewise express that by faith his light shines in our souls: as also that we are to prepare his way by good works, by which we are to be a light to men."

 

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"O Lord Jesus Christ, the true Light, Who enlightens every man that cometh into this world, pour forth Thy blessing upon these waxen candles and sanctify them wit the light of Thy grace; and be pleased to grant that, as these lights, kindled with visible fire, dispel the darkness of night, so our hearts, being enlighten with invisible fire, even the effulgence of the Holy Spirit, may be delivered from the blindness of every vice, that with the eye of the mind purified may be able to discern those things which are pleasing to Thee and useful for our salvation; whereby after the dark trials of this world, we may be found worthy to enter into that light that is never obscured."

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There is Love

These announcements are different today than the ones I made when I first began writing in this space. Our family is growing through marriage and grandchildren these days.  We have recently gained a daughter of the heart through our third son, Asher, and could not be happier for them.  

Marriage in the time of Covid is not without its unique challenges.  Fortunately, this young couple is extremely modest and thrifty and truly desired a small, intimate wedding anyway.  It was just immediate family for the ceremony and we celebrated together at home afterwards. Friends dropped off reception style decor at my doorstep in the days leading up to the big event.  My friend Annie graciously agreed to capture the day for us.  The kids announced that it was one of the best weddings we have had in the end. 

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"Well a man shall leave his mother, and a woman leave her home
They shall travel on to where the two shall be as one
As it was in the beginning is now until the end
A woman draws her life from man and gives it back again
And there is love, there is love."

Noel Paul Stookey

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Someone Else’s Eyes

"People read for a multiplicity of reasons. Nearly forty years in I can tell you why I inhale books like oxygen: I am grateful for my one life, but I'd prefer to live a thousand – and my favorite books allow me to experience more on the page than I could in my actual life. A good book allows me to step into another world, to experience people and places and situations foreign to my own day to day experience.

In books we encounter those things first, vicariously experiencing rites of passage on the page long before we live them for ourselves – we fall in love, or suffer a bad breakup; we lose a beloved pet, or a parent. We go to college, take on a new job, fight with a roommate, bicker with a spouse.  

Books draw us deeply into the lives of others, showing us the world through someone else's eyes, page after page. 

Books provide a safe place to encounter new and unfamiliar situations, to practice living in unfamiliar environments, to test drive encounters with new people and new experiences. Through our reading we learn to process triumph and fear and loss and sadness, to deal with annoying siblings or friend drama or something much much worse. And when we get tot hat point in our real life when it's happening to US it's not so unfamiliar.

We've been there before, in a book."         

I'd Rather Be Reading 

 

I'd Rather Be Reading: The Delights and Dilemmas of the Reading Life

 

There is so much truth to this.  I have considered also, what are the ramifications then of not reading widely and well.  What happens when you have a population reading less and less each year?  This is not so much an academic question as a social and emotional one.  We are not short of information.  Data is at our fingertips.  We can easily pull it up there if we have not memorized it from a text.  I am thinking more of the impact that reading – particularly literature and biography – has on our emotional intelligence, our EQ as it has been coined. Our perspective is shaped and tweaked as we see our theories tested out in the pages of other lives.  They don't always work the way we predict.  We discover new twists, new sides of things which had not occurred to us.  

We can't know what we don't know, after all.

If books provide us with insight into other's experiences and a way to vicariously experience things that our own situations do not permit, what happens when we  have fewer and fewer of those opportunities?  

No Profit

'Been studyin' 'bout that blue hoss," he said when we were halfway to the corral. "awful full o'fight, ain't he?"

"Yes, he is," I said, "but he's been letting me feed him some pieces of biscuit this past week."

"No profit a'fightin' a man as ain't lookin' for a fight," he said. Then he spit on the ground and we went on. 

I was pretty sure Zeb was telling me that when I'd tried to ride Blueboy before I'd let him know I was looking for a fight and that he'd keep right on fighting me as long as I gave him anything to fight against. 

 

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"Takes two to fight." Mr. Batchlett said. 

–  The Home Ranch

Day of the Dove

My friend Maureen shared an excellent essay today about, of all things, an alien force which inhabited the starship Enterprise.  

Intrigued?

 It stoked rage between the Klingons and humans by implanting false and exaggerated ideas in their minds about one another.  

Sound familiar yet?  

Read the rest here.  Lots of food for thought.  

 

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He Knows What He is About

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“God has created me to do Him some definite service.

He has committed some work to me which He has not committed to another.

I have my mission.

I may never know it in this life, but I shall be told it in the next.

I am a link in a chain, a bond of connection between persons.

He has not created me for naught.

I shall do good; I shall do His work.

I shall be an angel of peace,

a preacher of truth in my own place, while not intending it…

if I do but keep His commandments.

Therefore, I will trust Him, whatever I am, I can never be thrown away.

If I am in sickness, my sickness may serve Him,

in perplexity, my perplexity may serve Him.

If I am in sorrow, my sorrow may serve Him.

He does nothing in vain.

He knows what He is about.

He may take away my friends. He may throw me among strangers.

He may make me feel desolate, make my spirits sink, hide my future from me. Still, He knows what He is about.”

John Henry Newman

We may be unclear about what is happening and why.  Who are the good guys?  The bad guys?  What purpose are we serving in the bigger picture? Are we making a difference?  Doing any good? What is the point anyway?

These are all normal common questions and the author provides answers for them.  It is not only our apparent success that serves a good purpose.  Our God is economical. Nothing is wasted.  Not our sorrows or sicknesses, not our losses or our disappointments.  In all these things we can be good and faithful if we humbly offer them, just the same, trusting that He can do big things with them even if we can’t quite figure out how.  We may not know how it is all coming together in this world.  Ultimately that is the definition of faith – trust in things we can’t clearly see. 

It has never been more important to curate the voices competing for your attention.  Consider your options well. A few quiet voices of truth are all we really need.     

 

“…the message of the cross is foolishness to those who are perishing.”   1 Cor 1:18