Fall Festival – Ogden Nature Center

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…or (Little) Girls' Night Out. We like to take a couple kids at a time out for special fun events that might be more relevant to just them – a particular movie or concert or whatever.  When their daddy was out of town Alannah and I took the little girls to the fall festival at the nature center.  Brendan was on the fence and decided against going in the end.  

The nature center is one place that always feels like home to me.  In all our freakishly mobile married life we have never lived in the same place a second time.  

Ever. 

Never, ever. 

I can't really stress enough how different it is to be back in a place you once lived very long ago.  Many things have changed.  The nature center has not. We came every month when the older boys took classes here.  It is something of a comfort to me to be here again.  A rare concrete link to that other life. 

On this night there was cotton candy and game playing and wildlife shows until well after dark. Very exciting when you are 8.  Or 48.  : )  

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Command Center

It's up! (mostly)  Better yet – it's working. : )  Three cheers.  Seriously I do cheer because as big of a deal it is to set up a home management system in the first place it is even more daunting to reinvent it every couple years in entirely new communities and homes. 

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One of the pins that jumped out at me some months ago was a manipulative system that would serve as an at-a-glance for the big rocks like dog care, piano practice, bedroom tidying, a focus chore, vitamins and the like. I loved this idea  except my kitchen is not as cute and colorful and contemporary. Our kitchen isn't even actually the color it most likely will be once we paint.   This was closer but was larger than my wall and more construction than I had oomph for.  

In the end I kept the cookie sheet idea (less than $1 at Walmart) and left them unfinished since the wall is not repainted yet and it is right near the appliances which are steel. Kieran painted the letters to match. (Walmart too) Probably the sticker phrase might have been nice since the wall morphed into more than chores but this is done and done is good. And remember – we applaud and encourage kid work, versus improve upon it. 

We bought a couple packs of plain wood discs and he painted those. I had putzed around on the computer making circle templates and typing the tasks out and then threw my hands up.  Couldn't pick colors (see above).   Then we were at Michael's  and found the pack of chalkboard sheets for less than $10 and it was settled. (I am sorry I can't find them online to link) Instead of trays for individual people we have topical boards – menu, appointments, to do, chores. We got chalkboard paint for the discs since I clearly have commitment issues. And love my chalk pen.  We put magnetic tape on the back of the discs so we can move them around the sheets.

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While I am on an organization tear I have been listening to some podcasts and working on my binder some.  Almost attended this conference online but life…I don't know how people with children listen to these things live.  They need to broadcast between midnight and 6am for me to do that.  I work days ; D  I did listen to this motivational link from them on very early morning.  Good stuff.  Still, honestly I read faster than view.  For me it has been counter-productive to join groups and forums so probably I will just continue to purchase written work from selected speakers.  

It's funny to note after all these years of following the work of domestic "experts" that they tend to fall into some generally identifiable groups.  There is the group that is very sober and serious about homemaking. Task oriented.  Often virtue and vice are woven into the discussion and there is a moral overtone to the systems.  It is serious business.  

There is the chill group. The girls just wanna have fun. The mantra is that life is too short to spending housekeeping.  The secret of happiness, they proclaim, is to Let it Go. Don't worry, be happy. 

Then there is the marketing and productivity camp. Sort of hyper-productive.  And perky.  The mantra being LET'S DO ALL THE THINGS.  Really fast. With good hair. 

It helps to ascertain which camp has produced the materials or methods you are considering to be sure they mesh well with your personality, learning style, and wallet. 

The most helpful resource I tapped into this week was Flylady's homeschool journal.  Her stuff is so familiar it's comforting.  And in this case free too! Of particular note were the before bed and daily routines lists.  They are going to be incorporated into my command wall. 

So that's all for now.  Just a glimpse and random organizational thoughts as we rebuild our systems here. 

Columbus Day (or when Dad is out of town)

The weekend has been full of the sort of adventures one can only have when the other parent is out of town.  Some of you know exactly what that entails. : )  You can't always help the amping up but there are ways to help counter it.  I was reading this snippet during a lull the other day.  (I hope it pulls up. If not, or if you are intrigued it is from the much loved Simplicity Parenting book here) Basically he shares some stories of two rather excitable little people and how their very tuned-in mamas helped them not to hide from stimulation but to process it well.  

With that in mind, let me begin again.  It was a weekend of adventures with Dad gone,   therefore there has very intentionally been some quieting activity woven in. 

We finished up an experiment from Friday.  We sat and did some hand sewing.  (you will love!) Some of us drew along with this tutorial after our Columbus biography read aloud today.  I think my 6yo (below) is a gosh honest art prodigy.  But I digress. 

My goal isn't to live in a serene bubble, but to keep a finger on the pulse of this house and its members to balance the physical and emotional debits and credits. Sometimes the sails tip more one way than the other but the ship rights itself in the end. 

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If Monday was insane and you did zero things for Columbus Day the holiday police will not arrest you if you decide to make the Santa Maria tomorrow.   #permissiongranted

team spirit

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A big thought and a small thought.  

First, we are coming to the close of a long, season of daily and intense practices for multiple boys.  This has been our life for so many years it is hard to remember summer/autumn any other way. Much as I balk at the driving and fatigue and schedule rearrangements, there is nothing quite like the old-school style passion and pride on the sidelines.  

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Living here is a throw back to my own high school years. At least until the halftime performances which have required some interpretation for us having been out of country nearly half a dozen years. 

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Now watch me whip….now watch me nae nae…

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The big idea? 

There was a difficult season many, many years ago when our first set of kids were young.  And a handful. Several handfuls.  (Hands full?) Basically our hands WERE full to the point things were dropping, spilling out and over and down. 

A dear neighbor who was well-versed in large family matters shared a buzz word with me, a catch phrase really that I have kept in my heart and shared over and over: 

SAME TEAM

We are all on the same team.  We have the same goal in mind.  Our battles are not with each other but with all those outside forces which stand in the way of our ultimate victory. Our human nature tempts us to challenge the coach and blame the other players which is lose-lose all around.  When that happens now, we try to cut it off with that reminder…same team.  

The kids have it drilled into their heads that before they can be an effective player on any other team they have to be putting forth their best effort on this team. We remind each other there are bad games, even bad seasons, but that doesn't mean you pull out of the league. We regroup, train smarter, pull together.  

No matter what, you always support your home team. 

 

 

See Ann

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"What are you doing today?"

"I am making Ann into a paper doll."

Then it happened.  Before I even thought (because I have become frightfully good at speaking before thinking) my head started thinking (out loud) of ways to do it faster and 'better' with the printer and laminator and….

She looks up at me puzzled and there is a moment to pause and start over.

"That's wonderful. You are so creative. I really like how you drew the ribbons and the puff sleeves." 

 

#grace

 

Franciscan Joy

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We celebrated the feast of St. Francis climbing a mountain in the Uintah-Cache-Wasatch National Forest.  Seemed fitting. The weather was mild, as was the incline. Perfect, one could say…unless you were Francis. He had another idea of what made for perfect joy. I have spent a good portion of my adult life meditating on this one short reflection. Few things have challenged me more. 

I leave you with some fuzzy phone snaps of the forest and a very clear and convicting picture of joy… 

"One day in winter, as St Francis was going with Brother Leo from Perugia to St Mary of the Angels, and was suffering greatly from the cold, he called to Brother Leo, who was walking on before him, and said to him: “Brother Leo, if it were to please God that the Friars Minor should give, in all lands, a great example of holiness and edification, write down, and note carefully, that this would not be perfect joy.”

A little further on, St Francis called to him a second time: “O Brother Leo, if the Friars Minor were to make the lame to walk, if they should make straight the crooked, chase away demons, give sight to the blind, hearing to the deaf, speech to the dumb, and, what is even a far greater work, if they should raise the dead after four days, write that this would not be perfect joy.”

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Shortly after, he cried out again: “O Brother Leo, if the Friars Minor knew all languages; if they were versed in all science; if they could explain all Scripture; if they had the gift of prophecy, and could reveal, not only all future things, but likewise the secrets of all consciences and all souls, write that this would not be perfect joy.”

After proceeding a few steps farther, he cried out again with a loud voice: “O Brother Leo, thou little lamb of God! if the Friars Minor could speak with the tongues of angels; if they could explain the course of the stars; if they knew the virtues of all plants; if all the treasures of the earth were revealed to them; if they were acquainted with the various qualities of all birds, of all fish, of all animals, of men, of trees, of stones, of roots, and of waters – write that this would not be perfect joy.”

Shortly after, he cried out again: “O Brother Leo, if the Friars Minor had the gift of preaching so as to convert all infidels to the faith of Christ, write that this would not be perfect joy.”

Now when this manner of discourse had lasted for the space of two miles, Brother Leo wondered much within himself; and, questioning the saint, he said: “Father, I pray thee teach me wherein is perfect joy.” St Francis answered: “If, when we shall arrive at St Mary of the Angels, all drenched with rain and trembling with cold, all covered with mud and exhausted from hunger; if, when we knock at the convent-gate, the porter should come angrily and ask us who we are; if, after we have told him, ‘We are two of the brethren’, he should answer angrily, ‘What ye say is not the truth; ye are but two impostors going about to deceive the world, and take away the alms of the poor; begone I say’; if then he refuse to open to us, and leave us outside, exposed to the snow and rain, suffering from cold and hunger till nightfall – then, if we accept such injustice, such cruelty and such contempt with patience, without being ruffled and without murmuring, believing with humility and charity that the porter really knows us, and that it is God who maketh him to speak thus against us, write down, O Brother Leo, that this is perfect joy.

And if we knock again, and the porter come out in anger to drive us away with oaths and blows, as if we were vile impostors, saying, ‘Begone, miserable robbers! to the hospital, for here you shall neither eat nor sleep!’ – and if we accept all this with patience, with joy, and with charity, O Brother Leo, write that this indeed is perfect joy. And if, urged by cold and hunger, we knock again, calling to the porter and entreating him with many tears to open to us and give us shelter, for the love of God, and if he come out more angry than before, exclaiming, ‘These are but importunate rascals, I will deal with them as they deserve’; and taking a knotted stick, he seize us by the hood, throwing us on the ground, rolling us in the snow, and shall beat and wound us with the knots in the stick – if we bear all these injuries with patience and joy, thinking of the sufferings of our Blessed Lord, which we would share out of love for him, write, O Brother Leo, that here, finally, is perfect joy.

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And now, brother, listen to the conclusion:

Above all the graces and all the gifts of the Holy Spirit which Christ grants to his friends, is the grace of overcoming oneself, and accepting willingly, out of love for Christ, all suffering, injury, discomfort and contempt; for in all other gifts of God we cannot glory, seeing they proceed not from ourselves but from God, according to the words of the Apostle, ‘What hast thou that thou hast not received from God? and if thou hast received it, why dost thou glory as if thou hadst not received it?’ But in the cross of tribulation and affliction we may glory, because, as the Apostle says again, ‘I will not glory save in the cross of our Lord Jesus Christ.’ Amen.”

– taken from Christian Classics Ethereal Library