The best security for civilization

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"I have always felt that the best security for civilization is the dwelling, and that upon properly appointed and becoming dwellings depends more than anything else the improvement of mankind. Such dwellings are the nursery of all domestic virtues, and without a becoming home the exercise of those virtues is impossible."
-   Benjamin Disraeli 

This theme ran throughout the book the three youngest and I finished reading tonight before bed, A Tree for Peter by Kate Seredy.  The smallest steps in home-making renewed hope first in one child, then a family, and finally ignited a community. It illustrates the impact that simple, domestic chores and rituals have to heal and sustain and civilize us.

Is this still important in a world spinning chaotically on its axis?  There may be nothing more important than holding tenaciously to home, to helping others gain or regain it.  Seredy so clearly shows that stewardship is the antidote to destruction and despair. Hospitality, the antidote to hostility. 

Civilization, like charity, begins at home. 

An atmosphere of gladness

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"Children need an atmosphere of gladness. Law should not make its restraints hang like chains upon them. Sternness and coldness should have no place in home life or in family government. Plants do not need sunshine and air any more than children need joy and gladness. Unhappiness stunts them, so that their sweetest graces never come out."

~J.R. Miller in "The Home Beautiful"

 
 
 

 

Columbus Day (or when Dad is out of town)

The weekend has been full of the sort of adventures one can only have when the other parent is out of town.  Some of you know exactly what that entails. : )  You can't always help the amping up but there are ways to help counter it.  I was reading this snippet during a lull the other day.  (I hope it pulls up. If not, or if you are intrigued it is from the much loved Simplicity Parenting book here) Basically he shares some stories of two rather excitable little people and how their very tuned-in mamas helped them not to hide from stimulation but to process it well.  

With that in mind, let me begin again.  It was a weekend of adventures with Dad gone,   therefore there has very intentionally been some quieting activity woven in. 

We finished up an experiment from Friday.  We sat and did some hand sewing.  (you will love!) Some of us drew along with this tutorial after our Columbus biography read aloud today.  I think my 6yo (below) is a gosh honest art prodigy.  But I digress. 

My goal isn't to live in a serene bubble, but to keep a finger on the pulse of this house and its members to balance the physical and emotional debits and credits. Sometimes the sails tip more one way than the other but the ship rights itself in the end. 

Columbus

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If Monday was insane and you did zero things for Columbus Day the holiday police will not arrest you if you decide to make the Santa Maria tomorrow.   #permissiongranted

Franciscan Joy

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We celebrated the feast of St. Francis climbing a mountain in the Uintah-Cache-Wasatch National Forest.  Seemed fitting. The weather was mild, as was the incline. Perfect, one could say…unless you were Francis. He had another idea of what made for perfect joy. I have spent a good portion of my adult life meditating on this one short reflection. Few things have challenged me more. 

I leave you with some fuzzy phone snaps of the forest and a very clear and convicting picture of joy… 

"One day in winter, as St Francis was going with Brother Leo from Perugia to St Mary of the Angels, and was suffering greatly from the cold, he called to Brother Leo, who was walking on before him, and said to him: “Brother Leo, if it were to please God that the Friars Minor should give, in all lands, a great example of holiness and edification, write down, and note carefully, that this would not be perfect joy.”

A little further on, St Francis called to him a second time: “O Brother Leo, if the Friars Minor were to make the lame to walk, if they should make straight the crooked, chase away demons, give sight to the blind, hearing to the deaf, speech to the dumb, and, what is even a far greater work, if they should raise the dead after four days, write that this would not be perfect joy.”

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Shortly after, he cried out again: “O Brother Leo, if the Friars Minor knew all languages; if they were versed in all science; if they could explain all Scripture; if they had the gift of prophecy, and could reveal, not only all future things, but likewise the secrets of all consciences and all souls, write that this would not be perfect joy.”

After proceeding a few steps farther, he cried out again with a loud voice: “O Brother Leo, thou little lamb of God! if the Friars Minor could speak with the tongues of angels; if they could explain the course of the stars; if they knew the virtues of all plants; if all the treasures of the earth were revealed to them; if they were acquainted with the various qualities of all birds, of all fish, of all animals, of men, of trees, of stones, of roots, and of waters – write that this would not be perfect joy.”

Shortly after, he cried out again: “O Brother Leo, if the Friars Minor had the gift of preaching so as to convert all infidels to the faith of Christ, write that this would not be perfect joy.”

Now when this manner of discourse had lasted for the space of two miles, Brother Leo wondered much within himself; and, questioning the saint, he said: “Father, I pray thee teach me wherein is perfect joy.” St Francis answered: “If, when we shall arrive at St Mary of the Angels, all drenched with rain and trembling with cold, all covered with mud and exhausted from hunger; if, when we knock at the convent-gate, the porter should come angrily and ask us who we are; if, after we have told him, ‘We are two of the brethren’, he should answer angrily, ‘What ye say is not the truth; ye are but two impostors going about to deceive the world, and take away the alms of the poor; begone I say’; if then he refuse to open to us, and leave us outside, exposed to the snow and rain, suffering from cold and hunger till nightfall – then, if we accept such injustice, such cruelty and such contempt with patience, without being ruffled and without murmuring, believing with humility and charity that the porter really knows us, and that it is God who maketh him to speak thus against us, write down, O Brother Leo, that this is perfect joy.

And if we knock again, and the porter come out in anger to drive us away with oaths and blows, as if we were vile impostors, saying, ‘Begone, miserable robbers! to the hospital, for here you shall neither eat nor sleep!’ – and if we accept all this with patience, with joy, and with charity, O Brother Leo, write that this indeed is perfect joy. And if, urged by cold and hunger, we knock again, calling to the porter and entreating him with many tears to open to us and give us shelter, for the love of God, and if he come out more angry than before, exclaiming, ‘These are but importunate rascals, I will deal with them as they deserve’; and taking a knotted stick, he seize us by the hood, throwing us on the ground, rolling us in the snow, and shall beat and wound us with the knots in the stick – if we bear all these injuries with patience and joy, thinking of the sufferings of our Blessed Lord, which we would share out of love for him, write, O Brother Leo, that here, finally, is perfect joy.

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And now, brother, listen to the conclusion:

Above all the graces and all the gifts of the Holy Spirit which Christ grants to his friends, is the grace of overcoming oneself, and accepting willingly, out of love for Christ, all suffering, injury, discomfort and contempt; for in all other gifts of God we cannot glory, seeing they proceed not from ourselves but from God, according to the words of the Apostle, ‘What hast thou that thou hast not received from God? and if thou hast received it, why dost thou glory as if thou hadst not received it?’ But in the cross of tribulation and affliction we may glory, because, as the Apostle says again, ‘I will not glory save in the cross of our Lord Jesus Christ.’ Amen.”

– taken from Christian Classics Ethereal Library

 

some little joy

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“I'd like to add some beauty to life," said Anne dreamily. "I don't exactly want to make people KNOW more… though I know that IS the noblest ambition… but I'd love to make them have a pleasanter time because of me… to have some little joy or happy thought that would never have existed if I hadn't been born.”

LM Montgomery, Anne's House of Dreams

I am not convinced Anne did not in fact choose the noblest ambition. What could be more noble in the end than strewing little joys along the paths of others? 

Sharing a happy thought of mine: Autumn in England, in all her damp and earthy glory. 

Weekend Reading

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Sharing the inspiring and/or convicting things I have read and bookmarked lately. This was a catch up weekend.  Much needed. This fiery cloud caught my eye just before sunrise the other day. It happened after a stormy night when there was a break in the clouds over the moutains behind us. The sun peeked through just for a moment and lit up this bit of the sky. By the time I set the camera down in the house again it was past and gray/blue skies prevailed again. Glad to have looked up.  Always pays to look up. : ) 

 

On toys and too much of a good thing

On 'venting'

What attachment parenting is not

On labeling and assessing fellow moms – let's don't  (so good!)

Screentime and pediatric mental health (starting with the easy stuff)

On cheerless homes (from True Womanhood – a fave on my sidebar) 

Babystepping your way to homeschool excellence

On handwriting and learning – or what the School Sisters knew 100 years ago

Real world means living in real time – kids brains 

The answer is not on the screen

 

perspective in paperback

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I was going to share geography books and I will.  However you will humor me, please, because I just finished another book that will be right up near the top of my list of books-I-pray-my-daughters-and-close-friends-read. 

I just finished.  

Sigh. 

I had to save those last 20pages for alone time because it was pretty certain to be a big emotional event.  It was. I locked myself in the guest bath until composed enough to reenter society.  Whew.  

The book?  Oh yes.  That would help.  It was Mrs. Mike, a semi-biographical novel about a young Irish-American woman who leaves Boston for a Canadian outpost around 1900.  It's a thrifted paperback copy we've had forever and it didn't give me so much as a hint as to how compelling it would end up being all those years it sat on my shelves.  It read like a quick romance, initially, which meant you arrived at the gut-socking parts completely unprepared for the thinking and mourning and thinking some more that you would do.  

To me, there are significant similarities to Strangers and Sojourners by Michael O'Brien.  If you've read one and not the other I am telling you now you should.  Pain, strength, and beauty are all illustrated in such a way that it makes you feel braver, more grateful, and less concerned with petty things. You realize, "When little things perspectiare so important, it's because there aren't any big ones."   

Sometimes a novel can make you think more deeply about faith and family than a theology volume can.  This was one of those for me. I pray the perspective embeds deeply in my heart. 

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While in my head I am still vicariously wandering through northern forests and gliding around crystal lakes tonight I'm pulling out pictures of one of the most idyllic places we passed through this summer.  Part of Black Hills National Park.  Breathtaking. 

Spiritual Preparation of the Teacher – Montessori

While rereading one of my favorite old books (here) I found this gem that went into my commonplace/quote book (housed in 99 cent composition books):

"He must rid his heart of pride and anger. He must learn how to humble himself and be clothed with charity. These are the virtues he must acquire and this inner preparation will give him the balance and poise which he will need…We insist on the fact that a teacher must prepare himself interiorly by systematically studying himself so that he can tear out his most deeply rooted defects, those in fact which impede his relations with children."  - Maria Montessori  The Secret of Childhood

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