Lovingkindness

Every year my esteem for St John Bosco grows exponentially. I was not introduced to his teachings until the late 90s however there are many parallels in the Montessori method: respect, peace, observation of the child, alternating large muscle movement with periods of close concentration, and authentic faith practices that foster true comprehension. 

This treatise remains my go-to best resource.  

 

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DON BOSCO – WRITINGS

THE PREVENTIVE SYSTEM IN THE EDUCATION OF THE YOUNG

CRITICAL EDITION: P. BRAIDO – TRANSLATION & NOTES: P. LAWS

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On a number of occasions I been have asked to express, verbally or in writing, a few thoughts concerning the so-called Preventive System which we are accustomed to use in our houses. Until now I have not been able to comply with this wish for lack of time, but since at the present moment we are preparing to print the regulations which now have been observed as it were by tradition, I have thought fit to give here an outline of it, which however will serve as a sketch for a small work which I am preparing, if God will give me life enough to be able to complete it. I do this solely to help in the difficult art of the education of the young. Therefore I will say: in what the Preventive System consists, and why it should be preferred; its practical application, and its advantages.

I: In what the Preventive System consists, and why it should be preferred.

Through the ages there have been two systems used in the education of the young: preventive and repressive. The repressive approach consists in making the law known to the students and then supervising them in order to detect transgressions, inflicting, wherever necessary, the merited punishment. Using this system the words and the appearance of the Superior must always be severe, and somewhat menacing, and he himself must avoid all friendly relationships with his dependants.

To give greater weight to his authority, the Director would need to be seen but rarely among his subjects, and generally speaking only when it was a question of punishing or threatening. This system is easy, less demanding and is especially useful in the army and among adult and sensible people who ought of themselves to know and remember what is according to the law and other regulations.

Quite otherwise, I would say its very opposite, is the preventive system. It consists in making known the rules and regulations of an Institute, and then supervising in such a way that the students are always under the vigilant eye of the Director and the assistants, who like loving fathers will converse with them, act as guides in every event, counsel them and lovingly correct them, which is as much as to say, will put the students into a situation where they cannot do wrong.

This system is all based on reason, religion and loving-kindness. Because of this it excludes every violent punishment, and tries to do without even mild punishments. It seems that this system is preferable for the following reasons:

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Being forewarned, the pupil is not disheartened when he does something wrong, as happens
when such things are reported to the one in charge. Nor does he get angry from being corrected, or threatened with punishment, or even from actually being punished, because there has always been through the affair a friendly voice forewarning him, which reasons with him and generally manages to win his friendship, so that the pupil knows there must be a punishment, and almost wants it.

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The basic reason (why young people get into trouble) is youthful fickleness which in a moment can forget the rules of discipline and the punishments they threaten. For this reason, a child often commits a fault and deserves punishment, to which he had not given a thought, which he did not remember at all in the act of committing the fault, and which he certainly would have avoided had a friendly voice warned him.

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The Repressive system can stop a disorder, but only with difficulty can it improve offenders. One observes that young people do not forget the punishments they have suffered, and generally remain embittered, wanting to throw off the yolk, and even to take revenge. It seems at times they pay no heed, but anyone who follows them up in later life knows that the recollections of the young are dreadful, and that they forget the punishments inflicted by their parents, but with great difficultythose given by their teachers. Episodes are known of some who in their old age have exacted an ugly revenge for certain punishments justly inflicted during their school days. On the other hand, the Preventive system makes a friend of the student, who in the assistant sees a benefactor who gives him good advice, wants to make him good, to shield him from unpleasantness, from punishment, from dishonour.

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The Preventive system offers the student previous warning, in a way that the educator can still speak to him in the language of the heart, whether during the time of his education, or later. The educator, having won the loving respect of his protege, will be able to greatly influence him, warn him, counsel him, and also correct him, even when he is employed, whether it be in the civil service, or in commerce. For these and many other reasons it seems that the preventive system should prevail over the repressive.

II: Application of the Preventive System

The practice of this system is all based on the words of St Paul, who says: Love is patient, love is kind … it bears all things … hopes all things, endures all things. ( 1 Cor. 13:4.7 passim) Love is kindly, and patient; it puts up with all things, but hopes all things and endures any disturbance. For this reason only a Christian can successfully apply the Preventive system. Reason and Religion are the means the educator should constantly make use of, teaching them, making use of them himself, if he wishes to be obeyed and to attain his goal.

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For this reason the Director should be dedicated to his pupils, nor should he ever assume tasks that would take him away from his duties; on the contrary, he should be among his pupils every time they are not taken up with other legitimate tasks, unless they are duly assisted by others.

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The teachers, the technical instructors, the assistants should all be of known moral rectitude.They should try to avoid like the plague every kind of (morbid) affection or exclusive friendshipwith the pupils, and they should realise that the wrongdoing of just one person can compromise an educational Institute. They should operate in a way that the students are never alone. As far aspossible the assistants should precede them to the place where they are required to assemble; theyshould remain with them until others come to assist them; they should never allow them to be idle.

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Give them ample liberty to jump, run, make a din as much as they please. Gymnastics, music,declamation (of poems, etc), theatricals, hikes, are very effective methods for getting discipline;they favour good living and good health. One must only ensure that the plot, the characters and thedialogue are not unsuitable. That great friend of youth, St Phillip Neri used to say,

"Do whatever you wish; for me it is enough you do not sin".

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Frequent Confession, frequent Communion, daily Mass are the pillars that ought to support an educational edifice, from which one would want to keep at bay threats and violence. Never require the youngsters to go to the Holy Sacraments, but just encourage them, and offer them everyopportunity to make good use of them. Then on the occasion of retreats, novenas, homilies, religious instructions, one should highlight the beauty, the greatness, the holiness of that Religion which proposes with such easy methods things as useful to civil society, to peace of heart, to thesalvation of one's soul, as are these holy sacraments. In this way the young people will becomeinvolved spontaneously in these religious practices, with pleasure and with fruit. (1)

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(1) Not long ago a minister of the Queen of England, visiting an Institute in Turin was taken to a large hall where about 500 boys were studying. He was not a little amazed at seeing so many children in perfect silence, with no supervision. His amazement grew even more when he came to know that perhaps in an entire year, one did not have to complain of a word being said out place, or so much as threaten a punishment, much less inflict one. "Tell me, how ever is it possible to obtain such silence and such discipline", he asked. And he added to his secretary, "Write down whatever he says". "Sir", replied the Director of the establishment, "the means we use is not available to you." "Why?" "Because they are secrets known only to Catholics". "What are they?" "Frequent Confession and Communion, and Daily Mass well heard." "You are absolutely right. We lack these powerful means of education." "If you do not make use of these religious means, you must turn to threats and the stick". "You are right! You are right! Religion or the rod, I want to recount this in London".

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Exercise the strictest vigilance to prevent there being allowed in the Institute friends, books or persons who carry on bad conversations. The appointment of a good doorkeeper constitutes a treasure for a house of education.

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Every evening after the usual prayers, and before the students go to bed, the Director, or someone in his place should offer a few kind words in public, giving some good advice or counsel regarding things to be done or avoided, and let him try to glean these from events that have taken place that day in the Institute or outside. But his talk should never go on more than two or three minutes. This is the key to good behaviour, progress and educational success.

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Avoid like the plague the opinion of any one who would want to postpone First Holy Communion to too old an age, when most times the devil has taken possession of the heart of a youngster with incalculable harm to his innocence. According to the discipline of the early Church it was customary to give to infants the consecrated Hosts left over from the Easter Communion. This helps us realise how much the Church loves to see children admitted to their First Communion in due time. Once a child can tell the difference between bread and bread, and shows himself to be sufficiently instructed, pay no attention to his age and let the Heavenly King come to reign in that happy soul.

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Catechisms recommend frequent Communion. St Phillip Neri advised receiving once a week, or even more frequently. The Council of Trent states clearly that it greatly wishes every faithful Christian to also receive Communion each time he goes to Mass. But this communion should not only be spiritual but in fact sacramental, so that one may gain greater benefit from this august and divine sacrifice. (Council of Trent, session XXII, ch. VI)

III. Utility of the Preventive System

Someone might say that this system is difficult in practice. I reply that from the point of view of the students it turns out easier, more satisfying, more advantageous. In the case of the educator, it does include some difficult features, which however are diminished if the educator addresses the task with devotion. An educator is one devoted to the well-being of his students, and for this reason ought to be ready to face every inconvenience, every fatigue in order to achieve his goal, which is the civil, moral and intellectual education of his students.

Over and above the advantages set out above, I would also add:

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The student will have the greatest respect for the educator and will go on recalling with pleasure the orientation he was given, always considering his teachers and the other Superiors as fathers and brothers. Wherever they go, these students are generally the consolation of their families, useful citizens and good Christians.

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Whatever might be the character, the attitude, the moral state of a pupil at the time he is enrolled, his parents can be secure in the knowledge that their son will not deteriorate, and one may confidently assert that one will achieve some improvement. Indeed, certain youngsters who for a long time were the scourge of their parents, and were even refused entry into houses of correction, when cared-for according to these principles, changed their attitude, their character, they set themselves to live a decent life, and now fill honourable places in society, thus becoming the support of their families, and a credit to the area they live in.

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Pupils having unfortunate habits who perchance should gain entry into an Institute will not be able to harm their fellows, nor will good boys be harmed by them, because there will be neither time, place, or opportunity, insofar as the assistant, whom we presume to be present, would rapidly put things right.

A Word on Punishments

What criteria should one observe when inflicting punishment? Where possible, one should not make use of punishments, but when necessity demands repression, one should bear in mind the following:

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The educator at work amongst his pupils should make himself loved, if he wishes to be respected. In this case the omission of an act of goodwill is a punishment, but a punishment that acts as a challenge, encourages, and never disheartens.

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With the young, what is used as a punishment becomes a punishment. One can observe that a less-than-loving look is for some worse than being struck. Praise when something is done well, blame when there is negligence, are already reward and punishment.

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Except in very rare cases, corrections, punishments should never be given in public, but privately, apart from companions, and one should use the greatest prudence and patience to have the student understand his fault through reason and religion.

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To strike one in any way, to make one kneel in a painful position, to pull any one's ears andsimilar punishments should be absolutely avoided, because they are forbidden by the law of the land, they greatly irritate the young, and they degrade the educator.

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The Rector should make the rules well known, along with the rewards and punishments set down in the disciplinary policy, so that no pupil might be able to excuse himself by saying he did not know what was commanded or forbidden

If in our houses this system is put into practice I believe that we will be able to achieve excellent results without resorting either to corporal punishment, nor to other violent punishments. For these forty years during which I have dealt with the young, I do not remember ever having used any kind of punishment, and with the help of God I have always got not only what was necessary, but even had my wishes met, and that from those same young people for whom every hope of a good outcome seemed in vain.

Sac. John Bosco.

Soldiers in Petticoats

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To make history "matter" and come alive I try to weave in literature and film and music that fleshes out the eras we are covering. I have watched all of Call the Midwife twice and am going through a third time as my younger girls rewatch. We recently watched the suffragette episode featuring Annette Crosby and it's clear that I was not viewing closely enough prior to this sitting.  The discussion about "forced feedings, humiliation, and psychological and physical torture" for instance. 

It so happened that we had recently covered women's suffrage and WWI this past semester so we revisited this issue. Last night we found the Suffragette film. It was just a solid B movie but hopefully made the story a little more human than a list of names and dates in a text. Hopefully they have a different image in their minds than the delightful but ditzy Mrs. Banks of Mary Poppins fame, which honestly was the first thing that came to mind for me growing up. The way people and things are depicted so often is the most impactful aspect of how they are memorialized. 

 There is nothing black and white, neat and tidy about history or humans. As causes intersect and overlap (or not) it can be tempting to make a broad sweep of all activist movements. It is worth the time and discussion to consider the pros and cons of each issue, on its own, together with the merits and drawbacks of proposed next steps.  

This post contains a host of links to related books and films.

British Suffrage Movement

Night of Terror

Up the Women

The 24 Days

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“What’s the surprise for the first day of December?”

It wasn’t completely a surprise because each year it’s an advent calendar, but it’s partly a surprise because it’s always a new one.

Advent means coming and it’s the four weeks that lead up to Christmas. Mother and Daddy read serious things in the evening, and talk about them, a book called The Four Last Things, for instance.”

 – The 24 Days Before Christmas

The wind is blowing outside reinforcing the inward turning of the season. Everyday the girls and I read a little about a different advent practice and the symbolism attached to each. We do some work on the tree. (It is many days project here.) Social media has been quieted. We do a little something each day to direct our focus. Even still, there is the nagging, “You’re falling behind…you forgot to….the deadline for…”  Some of that is absolutely true. Adding seasonal tasks to an already challenging to-do list of classes and extracurriculars and keeping slow moving teens moving along is not exactly conducive to  meditative contemplation.  We can establish little checkpoints throughout the day though to anchor our hearts:

some seasonal read aloud after morning prayer

reciting the St Andrew Novena at noon

lighting the advent wreath at dinner

A little something every day to take our thoughts captive. 

resources for you and your children:

Family Advent Customs

Advent Journal (printable)

Reminder  St Nicholas Day is Sunday.  It is time to print coloring pages and gather treats for the shoes. 

The Informed Patriot

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"We must read our newspaper of course- newspapers on both sides; but he who founds upon his newspaper is an ignorant patriot and an illiberal citizen.

His opinions are no more than parrot-like repetitions of other men's sayings;

whereas he who dwells with dutiful interest upon the history of his own country, distressed over her ignominies, proud when she has shown herself great; who has pondered the history of another great empire – admiring the temperate justice with which its distinct colonies were administered, and scrutinizing the causes of its fall – he gradually acquires some insight as to the meaning of national life.  He is able to express an opinion which is not a mere echo, and gains convictions which will certainly be of use to his country, even if they are only known to the people about his own fireside." 

Charlotte Mason, Volume 4 Some Instructors of Conscience: History and Philosophy

Years ago, Laura Berquist urged readers to prioritize 'formation over information' though one could not argue that she did not value information as well. The trouble is that information by itself requires much interpretation and careful application. Hence the old adage: a little bit of knowledge is a dangerous thing. 

The idea that insight is acquired gradually is not a popular one in our day of instant everything. It used to be a commonly held belief that responsible citizenship involved a good deal of study through immersion in whole books on a variety of topics. Lately, while chatting with friends, one or the other of us will be challenged about how much we have read about a specific topic of current interest.  Often, either I or the other will have to respond with, "Very little."  The good news is we need not succumb to the pressure to hastily claim a position while having little foundational information to base that upon.  We can – ought – to step back and begin the laborious process of informing ourselves the same way our forefathers did.  As Miss Mason says, that involves reading from both sides of the aisle in any discipline.  It means avoiding the echo chamber like the plague.  

The informed patriot does not gloss over uncomfortable truths, nor does that history discount the indisputable forward steps.  This good citizen spends proportionately more time listening and observing than proclaiming or condemning. If the short, attention-grabbing newspaper articles of yesteryear were a concern for Miss Mason, I can imagine how distressed she would be to know how much of our contemporary worldview is drawn from brief statements of no more than 280 characters.  There is a great danger in confusing sloganeering with philosophy. 

The screens may be here to stay.  As we look ahead to both a new school year and an election year, I consider it one of my primary duties as an educator today, and a citizen, to keep them from usurping the position whole volumes ought to hold for us and for our children. 

June Daybook

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Outside:

The rain has begun to fall regularly once more.  The bloom times are quite delayed at this altitude so we are just beginning to see the first spring flowers. The yard is our escape right now.  We have cut down dead trees, uncovered a retaining wall, sanded and stained our wood patio set, and hung more lights over the deck.  I use 'we' loosely.  I have been mostly applauding and advising and enjoying the fruits of their labor.  

From the kitchen:

Pizza Stuffed Pepper casserole from Cleanfoodcrush was a hit.  It was even better for breakfast the next day with eggs.  She has a tuna stuffed pepper recipe that may be on the menu for Ember Days this week. 

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Liturgical living:

Yesterday was the Feast of the Pentecost. I love how things come together when we really immerse ourselves in a lit based lifestyle.  Today we had this passage in The Courtship of Miles Standish where the recently spurned Captain insists the only tongue that will be understood is "the tongue of fire that speaks from the mouth of the cannon!" The elder of the community, "the one voice of peace," responds:

"Not so thought Saint Paul, nor yet the other Apostles;
Not from the cannon's mouth were the tongues of fire they spake with!"

Ember Days as mentioned above are this Wednesday, Friday, and Saturday. They are a time to acknowledge the changing of the seasons, to fast and pray for the one that is beginning.  It seems a particularly good idea right now. 

From the learning room:

Along with working through the last epic poem in our Longfellow volume, we have reached the Punic Wars in our history reading.  We covered The Big Three in Greece.  

Big Three ancient Greek philosophers | Ancient greek philosophers ...

and Alexander the Great

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and his struggle with The Gordian knot also summed up by Phineas and Ferb.

Reading: 

The library is now open for curbside pickup.  Given our current crisis we are working through many books on civil rights, diversity in general, and the history of nonviolent protest. We have pulled from lists from my Pinterest board. We just try to keep listening to each other's stories and consider new perspectives.

Creating:

Tess finished the last skirt and now we need to order more fabric.  

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Thinking about:

So often the saints' words are a sign of contradiction.  They fly in the face of our first instincts. They make me pause and consider.  I am pausing and considering these words of St Therese and how often I lack that peace that she insists comes from letting of my need to defend.  It's pride, really. What if someone has a completely faulty impression of me?  What if?  

It's ok.

 It needs to ultimately just be ok. It is inevitable after all.  Of course, the flip side is remembering we are just as wrong about other people more often than we suspect.  

"Why should we defend ourselves when we are misunderstood and misjudged? Let us leave that aside. Let us not say anything. It us so sweet to let others judge us any way they like. O Blessed silence which gives so much peace to the soul."  – St Therese of Lisieux

On Educational Foundations

Hillsdale College's excellent Imprimis newsletter arrived this week. Larry Arnn wrote a superb essay on the four pillars of education upon which the college was founded: learning, character, faith, and freedom.  There are many takeaways for the classically inclined educator.  In speaking of the college's founders he says they believed:

Liberal education is the road to good living, good citizenship, and good statesmanship.

College is about thinking, and the refinement and informing of the intellect is its first purpose. This requires in turn the education of the whole human being.

Doing and thinking work together to form character. If character is not courageous, moderate, and just, then not only will (students) be craven in action, but thinking will be impaired.

All of our judgments of good and bad, better and worse, implies some standard that is complete or perfect.

It is better to inspire allegience to a cause than to self and that is most effectively done through beautiful language.

Things that have been thought good for a long time are worthy of our attention, respect, and study.

He goes to discuss permanence, change, and forms of government so eloquently I will not attempt to sum up but rather will share the link to the essay here if you'd like a short but compelling read to mull over.  

 

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note: I will add the disclaimer that I do not think these principles apply only to the college environment nor do I specifically endorse a particular institution.  

serendipity

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Over the years we have developed a both/and approach to lesson planning for our home school. I appreciate having the big rocks (math, grammar etc) divided into the appropriate number of pages per week. It has also been a blessing to have built enough margin into our days to allow for serendipity to work its magic. That happened today when the topic in the vintage reader coincided with a recent discovery in the front yard.  web (1 of 1)

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prom

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Our high school boys just wrapped up their big prom weekend, the last for Aidan who is now 18.  It was wonderful they could do this together.  They had lovely dates and a huge group of two dozen friends to go with.  As is the way where we live, there were elaborate invite and acceptance rituals.  Puns and signs and doorbell ditching.  Texts flew back and forth in the following days, coordinating colors and planning the "day date" which precedes the actual dance date.  Before previous events they have done gingerbread house making parties, ice skating, and mini golfing as a huge group.  They considered doing indoor surfing this time around but one of the girls in their group had hip surgery recently.  It did my heart good to see them put their heads together and consider activities everyone could enjoy.  

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After the dance the entire crew landed back here.  They sang and quoted silly videos projected on the big tv.  They played ping pong.  There were the first smores of the season down at the fire pit.  There was whooping and laughing and also quietly animated conversation I picked up about how, "This is the last time we will…. and next month/year when we are off doing……"

 
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Graduation year is always bittersweet for me as we watch our children and their friends prepare to launch.  It's as scary for us as it is for them (very likely scarier) and it often involves a fair amount of landing on one's face and do over's – when that's possible and it isn't always.  Right now though, they are full of promise and hope and we celebrate with them.  

May they take this joy and bury it deep in their hearts as they go out into the bigger world.  

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Hooping it Up

 

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Sorry.  That was lame lol.  The girls made some really nice embroidery hoop art pieces at their sewing class last week.  The projects called for lots of new techniques for them.  They drew their designs on paper and cut them out to trace onto fusible web.  They ironed that to the fabrics and cut and ironed the pattern pieces to the their background material.  They used a tight zig zag stitch to embroider detail as well as hand sewing some buttons for the Archie dog.  He figures prominently in many family art projects.  We heart Archie! 

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How to for similar fusible project we want to tackle here

Zigzag tute here