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What to say about the village of Lavenham?  Well, it is famous for it's half-timbered houses perched at precariously wonky angles leaning over streets or into neighboring houses.  "Everyone" said we should see this.  "Everyone" does not speak for my older children, who said, yep.  They are tilted. 

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This one, saying "hmm, what could POSSIBLY be around that corner?  yesssss!  Another crooked house!"

 

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 There were a lot of such corners. 

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And then it was like, Mom.  Mom?  For real now.  Can we go get something to eat?  We promise the awesomeness of tippy houses is forever seared into our memories.  Muah.  Let's eat.

So we did. 

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What I did instead of blogging…..

 

Wrote in my journal. 

Played soccer with the littles til the sun went down. 

Ordered shoes and suits for the wedding. 

Tried a recipe from a new cookbook.

Wrote encouraging letters to a friend. 

Read encouraging letters from a friend. 

Read my book. 

Read to the kids. 

Reorganized the Christmas stuff and put it away.  (It's not Valentine's Day yet right?)

Watched the sun come up. 

Listened to a child pour out a heart. 

Listened to another child's plans. 

Listened to a third campaign hard NOT to have to finish a book report book. 

Watched him choke up after finishing the book report book (The Yearling) and then sat and talked about how not all endings are happy. A recurrent theme this winter. 

Got on the treadmill.  A lot.

Took hot baths.  

Took my vitamins.

Took some breaks.

Drank a lot of latte – chai, pumpkin, ginger, you name it. 

Slept later than the schedule 'suggests'

And restored some equilibrium. 

 

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Such a time this has been for my daughters.

Alannah opened the door to her infant room early one morning to be greeted with news that one of "her" babies lost his mama during the night when her helicopter crashed off the Norfolk coast not far from here.  Of course he was not "her" baby, but she and her little charges grow close over the course of their infant year with her. She comes to know them and their families as they team together to raise happy, healthy small people. Losing one of her team so violently and abruptly really knocked the wind out of her.  

What has followed in these days is not my story to tell, but I will say this.  While it is a story of loss it was also a story of love.  This woman was remembered as being the one who always helped anyone in need.  A tremendous legacy: to have been quietly supportive, encouraging, nurturing, to have walked out the door that day in peace and love.  A lot to ponder there if you are a young woman, or an old woman too.  

I am proud of my daughter as well for pushing past her sadness and honoring this woman and her family in small but important ways.  She has learned a lot about life and death the past couple years and the parts we play in other people's lives, even if they are only for a span of time. 

Tonight though, we moved forward at home, celebrating life in all its sweetness, because that is vitally important too. We weep with the weeping and then we rejoice with the joyful.  And there is much joy indeed because our Moira begins her last year of childhood today. All the promise of the future ahead of her. Today I feel so grateful to have been able to watch her blow out so many birthday candles. We go forward together, making every day count.  Knowing each are irreplaceable. The best of gifts.

 

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"When you arise in the morning think of what a precious privilege it is to be alive –

to breathe, to think, to enjoy, to love.

– Marcus Aurelius

Along the Quay

Not many words tonight.  Life has been all about finishing up last minute wedding details, working on school lessons, catching up on housework, and getting people back into their regular routine. Those things take up most of my waking hours right now. We have been a lot of places this winter however and I wanted to squeeze in just  little uploading while the internet was kinda sort cooperating. 

This is more from the shore with my guys….

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of snacks and seals

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This was supposed to be the end of a road trip birthday for this little man.  We found a tiny deli, about the size of my living room, in a fishing village.  We got hot chocolate with lots of marshmallows to warm up and homemade rocky road brownies and raced back to eat in the car which was a whole lot warmer than the street. 

And then we decided to make one more stop to see if we could get Colin closer to the ocean before he leaves. Good call. It was nearly dark when he flew down the boardwalk at Wells Next the Sea and you could just barely make them out.  There they were though….

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Out on that sandbar were several of the local grey seals. Sadly there was only the nifty fifty on the camera but you can see the dark outlines dotting the sand in the distance. Can't say that everyday. 

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That sums up pretty well. This old house has seen a lot of action the past few weeks. They have exhausted the board game stash and someone discovered the game book that has lingered on the shelf for who knows how long.  "Mom! When did you get THIS??"  

 

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The laundry is caught up but a new basketball hoop coupled with lots of rain has made for lots of muddy clothes.  Side note, we put away Gram's Christmas dress one more time.  I don't know if Abbie will squeeze one more year out of it or this is it. : (

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Do you have grown kids?  Do they revert to middle school behavior when they are all together again?? Oh my word. It is so funny seeing these adults I know, who hold down good jobs and lead respectable grown up lives, racing each other to sit shotgun in the car or get the best seat on the couch, or bickering over music/tv/younameit.  Picking out the dinner items they don't like. Arm wrestling. Hysterical. And loud.

I wonder if they will be doing this when they are 40? 

They are crazy.people. My crazy people. 

 

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 This soldier son is heading back to work.  Time to tidy up his buzz cut.  I believe after I shot this he said, "Hey mom, I am planning to shave after this.  Did you want a picture of that too?" 

Actually, I got a little emotional this night knowing our time was running out. Remembering where he works.  Just stuff.  Dad jumped in and offered some comic relief….

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The boy didn't think that would go over well though. 

 

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The littles are glued to Colin.  Period.  He showed them how to play hangman and then sat through about a billion rounds.   You get a pretty good idea of my Jango playlist if you look closely lol….

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 The living room has become a giant slumber party.  We have one more week with Colin, more road trips, and then we really do have to get back to real life, whatever that is.  2014 promises to be a big year and my daily lists are already daunting as we work to make it happen. But right now, there is a big game on and a bunch of awesome people with my last name piled onto couches and pillows and I am not about to move them.   

 

and we’ll never be royals

 

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…nor will we ever pass for British football parents. 

Yeah. no. Though our kid looks super cute second to right there doesn't he? 

The boys tried out British football (soccer) leagues this school year.  Two have opted out for the next term.  One found it a good fit and wants to continue.

Random things we have observed thus far: 

There are two main responses to various plays.  "Well done!" or "Unlucky!"  One of those two phrases are uttered at regular intervals. These are the only two catchwords you need to know to engage from the sidelines. 

The local parents do not sit when watching games.  You can spot the two American families by their folding chairs.  It isn't like everyone else is pacing and cheering.  They stand rooted to the ground as a rule.  I sit.  True confessions?  When it's under 50 degrees and raining and my kid is sitting out for a bit, I sit….in the car.  Don't judge.  They play this game all year round come wind, come rain, come snow.  They are as devoted as the postal service. No weather deters them. This mom is not quite as hardy.  

It helps a lot that they serve hot tea at the games.  Did you know they have portable tea kettles you plug into the car? We noticed when workers around the farm stopped to take tea in the afternoon.  Hot tea.  In the car.  This is way cool to me.  They do not however use to go cups.  They carefully carry small styrofoam cups with steam rising in clouds around their faces. Another way to spot the Americans.  Giant to-go cups. 

For the first few games I was sure my sons would lose a limb, or at least teeth. Some of the other boys would writhe on the ground screeeeeaming and clutching their legs or bellies.  The adults around us seemed unmoved by their pain. It was disturbing.  Until I realized the same boys would be up and running as vigorously the next play.  My kids explained this is 'diving' where they exaggerate a fall to cause a penalty.  Nice.  

Water seems to be the remedy of choice for any ill that befalls a player.  Land on your leg wrong?  Throw some water on it.  Take a ball to the face?  Pour some water on the kid.  Outdoor temperature seems not to factor in here either.  

Best soccer/football story to date happened at an under 9s game.  One boy had said something disrespectful to a referee.  His mother took an arm and proceeded to drag him across the pitch to the car.  He laid on the ground, being pulled along, biting her ankle.  I must add this was pretty shocking to the British parents as well. 

We are getting on to it all.  Kieran is loving every bit. He has learned more and developed more drive and discipline this term than in many years of playing team sports.  It's just super different from anything we have done so far and something he will always remember about living here. No matter how many sights you see, nothing compares to actually jumping in to your local community.