For My Yoke is…

Thank you so much to those of you who have left notes and asked about how we were doing. I haven’t had a chance to answer properly this week but it has been a good week still and one which I trust will lay the foundation for smoother ones to come.

Recently we have seen the culmination of a series of challenges. It seems this happens every so often in a large and growing family. Suddenly nothing ‘fits’ well anymore. The recipes that used to guarantee leftovers now are consumed at dinner. (or don’t stretch through the meal) Pots and pans seem too small. A schedule that began comfortably now taxes. Appliances expire. Sometimes (don’t I know it!) even the actual clothes are no longer the right size. Adjustments must be made. That is what this week was about.

I am not the first person to puzzle over Mt 11:30

For My yoke is easy, the burden light.

There are times, such as we have found ourselves upon, that do not seem easy nor light. They become oppressive and heavy. In those times we remind ourselves that His promise has not been revoked. It is we who have picked up other baggage along the way. In those times we have to stop a moment, assess our load, and determine which of our burdens are truly from Him and which are of our own choosing.

I am a firm believer that we are always assured of the grace to do His will, but not necessarily a smidge more than that. In fact, it seems that increasingly there is no wiggle room in that regard. Though there are many more things we would “like” to do they are simply not possible right now. For that reason, this week my husband and I sat down and sorted the baggage. We talked about what our current realities are, what our goals are, and which things in our lives were helping and which were hindering. It can be tempting to assure yourself that everything is necessary, everything helping, but that is rarely the case. Coming to the task with an open mind and a willing heart can net innumerable blessings.

Our current reality is that the travel portion of Allen’s job is still a constant. That means there are things we used to take for granted that he could fix and attend to that now ought to be managed in other ways to help ease his burden. It is necessary to maintain our property. It is not necessary that he physically do every job. We can delegate some of it so that he can instead enjoy the children on his off time. For that reason, when we went to the store to pick out new kitchen appliances (insert chorus of praise and thanksgiving!!) we opted for the installation package. Yes, he knows how to wire. Yes, he could haul off the old stuff in his truck. No, that is not the best use of his limited time – right now. Likewise we have had a contractor by to bid on some of the larger work that has been stacking up around the house. It was a huge thing for Allen but a wonderfully good move which promises to bless our family in many ways.

We took a good look at our livestock. Which do we most enjoy? Which are a source of frustration or extra work? We like our goats, we like the horses, we would even like more of the latter. The calf is not likely a cost effective investment. Our neighbors sell grass fed beef as cheaply as we can process it ourselves. So the calf is sold to cover to the appliances which DO contribute to our well-being in irreplaceable ways – right now.

The goat herd is a tremendous source of pleasure for me. But the business portion of it, not so much. We are discerning what a comfortable herd size is – one that will provide for our family but not burden us with work for which the benefits are scanty.

Asher got his license this week. Woo hoo! Well sorta. It meant he could take Colin to a concert they had been waiting for and no one had to drive them in and out. It meant Alannah could attend teen night in town again with the local homeschoolers. It also meant his father watching the clock and scanning the long dirt road for signs of their return, listening to the traffic report to reassure himself that his children were ok. That part will get better though and we will be able to enjoy the extra driver. However, it means that Asher is gone more with a new job and some of his chores need to be reassigned to other kids.

These things are some of the challenges that needed to be reworked or eliminated entirely. Goals include more travel. We have always been a well-travelled bunch. Increasingly Allen is traveling alone or with a child or two. Part of that is the reality that is ten kids. Part is because we have made lifestyle choices that did not include planning expressly to make couple or group travel possible. We realize how much we miss that and are making the necessary tweaks so that can happen more often.

Another immediate goal is school. I want to enjoy the year. I want to enjoy these children who will only be this size this one year. To that end I am once more dumping an enormous amount of stuff that had originally been saved when purging. Looking at it all again in this light I realized that no, these are not appropriate burdens to maintain. I don’t love this stuff. I don’t want to spend my time moving it, cleaning it, etc. They go. I am after the beauty of the few. Minimalist surroundings for maximum living.

There are some other big decisions in the works and if you are the praying sort I would most appreciate you keeping those intentions in prayer at the moment. We will know in time if these are our ideas or God’s and we will adjust again accordingly. Meantime, we are grateful for the lightening of the load. The yoke does seem sweeter today.

“Come to me, all you who labor and are burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am meek and humble of heart; and you will find rest for your selves.”

Ann Landers

Found this wonderful old column of her’s from RetroRenovation of all places:

JUST FOR TODAY – I will live through the next 12 hours and not try to tackle all life’s problems at once
JUST FOR TODAY – I will improve my mind. I will learn something useful. I will read something that requires effort, thought and concentration
JUST FOR TODAY – I will be agreeable. I will look my best, speak in a well-modulated voice, be courteous and considerate.
JUST FOR TODAY – I will not find fault with friend, relative or colleague. I will not try to change or improve anyone but myself.
JUST FOR TODAY – I will have a program. I might not follow it exactly but I will have it. I will save myself from two enemies – hurry and indecision.
JUST FOR TODAY – I will exercise my character in three ways. I will do a good turn and keep it a secret. If anyone finds out it won’t count.
JUST FOR TODAY – I will do two things I don’t want to do, just for the exercise.
JUST FOR TODAY – I will be unafraid. Especially will I be unafraid to enjoy what is beautiful and believe that as I give to the world, the world will give to me.

Postscript – Amy is absolutely correct from what I see. How odd the original column was run without attributing it correctly.

Y2K-8?

Bermuda Triangle?

Murphy’s Law?

Tell you what, it’s something. We could call this the summer of The Great Appliance Meltdown. Let’s see. I told you about the stove. The dishwasher. The microwave came before those. The van has been jumped on multiple occasions. Well this weekend the water heater started sputtering as we were leaving for church. After investigating, Allen discovered the propane tank was empty. That was sort of good bad news because it meant it wasn’t the boiler but the gas that was faulty. Somehow we fell through a crack in the summer delivery route and ran dry. That meant however that we are down to the “extra” (read ratty) fridge and cold water at the moment. Let me just say washing dishes by hand was more delightful with hot water. So were showers.

We are working hard to maintain our sense of humor. Some days we are more successful than others. I have one other motto which is that this is not a bad way to suffer. You have to be careful who you share mottoes like those with however or you run out of people to whine to. They tend to do things like repeat your mottoes back to you. Darn. Truly though as Christians we know we are to take up a cross. In the whole big picture these are itty bitty crosses compared to chemotherapy, car accidents, nuclear war, or POW camp. Granted they are itty bitty like an angry hornet at times – small but packing a punch.

So, it is that. Wish me well and I will be back to you soon if I promised a response or answer to a question. Aside from the aforementioned little disasters we had cabinets for Allen to repair and are refinishing a desk. Oh and that trim. While I may wish for summer to linger longer, time waits for no man so we toil while the sun shines here and hope for the best.

A picture thought for Monday – Alannah by the ocean, with no appliances in sight….

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High Desert wisdom

You probably figured out I get caught up on one or two blogs a day. Yesterday it was High Desert Home. I found myself nodding in agreement over and over.

From Simple Beauty at Home:

A home, no matter how simple, should be warm and inviting. There should be life and energy, laughter and fun, creativity and joy there. While there should be that peace that comes from order, it is dispiriting to think we need to maintain perfect order. My aim is to live simply enough that disorder or caring for too many things won’t tyrannize my peace of mind or pleasant rhythms or steal the hours away from my relationships

In streamlining one’s life and possessions, beauty and style are not being rejected. Rather, the “beauty of the few,” as Anne Morrow Lindbergh described it, is being embraced.

On work:

Work is good for me. It is good for my home. It is good for my family. And it does bring peace and rest and lightness of heart.

On routines:

A simple, but disciplined, daily routine is a nice scaffolding for keeping all of the work and activity of my days relaxed, pleasant, and orderly-enough. And since I tend toward overstimulation, distraction, and maybe even a bit of laziness, this is important for me. When I stray too far from my routines (these are not strict schedules), I increasingly seem to flounder in the areas that matter most– personal spirituality and life in community.

One cannot collect all the beautiful shells on the beach. One can collect only a few, and they are more beautiful if they are few. – Anne Morrow Lindbergh

Photoseashells

Clothespin dolls

I just caught up on the Allsorts blog and was immediately taken with the Dollipops dolls. SO cute! I am not enjoying an abundance of free time so I have been filing ideas more than following up. Still, these are promising. There is a basic doll tutorial here but they are not the exact same dolls. Dollipops and others like them have an extra wood bead for the head which to me makes them ever so much nicer. The little dolls in the pouch here would make very nice tiny toys however.

these are from Sweet Imaginations

Dolls

Fun Felt food!

Felt Food has been a bit of an obsession of mine of late. I ran across some on a blog and then began the hunt. In the interest of having a frugal, handmade Christmas we are trying to find some crafty gifts that would actually be used. I think we hit the jackpot here! It seems to me that if you looked carefully at the images you could reproduce many of these (at least the 2D ones) minus a pattern. I will let you know if this is not the case. The girls and I are going to give this a whirl. Felt is cheap and forgiving. It doesn’t unravel so no seams are necessary.

Flickr Felt food group

felt eggs and oranges tutorial

a smorgasbord!

etsy felt food

a google search will turn up tons

Self Directed Learning – what it is and isn’t

I apologize for the tardiness in addressing many questions. We are pushing hard this summer while I am still mobile. Pregnancies have historically brought me to the couch by this time so every day has been a rare blessing. (For some odd reason I think the goat’s milk has had a miraculous effect on the contractions because the last pregnancy was also much better than the first 7) Even without the contractions however, we seem to be fielding a series of minor and not so minor challenges which keep a person on their toes. I have never been more grateful for a workable routine!

As I have said, self-direction plays a big role in that routine. To help explain what that means (and as importantly what it does not mean) I am quoting some text from different sites.

First

“the Montessori method is characterized by an emphasis on self-directed activity on the part of the child and clinical observation on the part of the teacher (often called a “director”, “directress”, or “guide”). It stresses the importance of adapting the child’s learning environment to his or her developmental level, and of the role of physical activity in absorbing academic concepts and practical skills. It is also characterized by the use of autodidactic (self-correcting) equipment to introduce various concepts.”

Self-correcting material allows children a greater measure of independence and efficiency in their work. They are not waiting on the teacher and can see at once when they have made a mistake so there is no repeating it and thus reinforcing an erroneous habit.

In Montessori programs, children do not work for grades or external rewards, nor do they simply complete assignments given them by their teachers. Children learn because they are interested in things, and because all children share a desire to become competent and independent human beings.

Montessori children enjoy considerable freedom of movement and choice, however their freedom always exists within carefully defined limits on the range of their behavior.

Although the teacher employs less direct instruction she is nevertheless a vital part of the process. She must be:

Authoritative: The teacher is firm at the edges and empathetic at the center, the kind of adult who responds empathetically to children’s feelings, while setting clear and consistent limits.

Observer: The Montessori teacher is a trainer observer of children’s learning and behavior. These careful observation are recorded and used to infer where each student is in terms of his or her development, and leads the teacher to know when to intervene in the child’s learning with a new lesson, a fresh challenge, or a reinforcement of basic groundrules.

An Educational Resource: Montessori teachers facilitate the learning process by serving as a resource to whom the children can turn as they pull together information, impressions, and experiences.

Role Model: Like all great teachers, the Montessori educator deliberately models the behaviors and attitudes that she is working to instill in her students. Because of Montessori’s emphasis on character development, the Montessori teacher normally is exceptionally calm, kind, warm, and polite to each child.

How does that play out daily? She is to:

Respectfully Engage With The Learner: The Montessori teacher recognizes that her role is not so much to teach as to inspire, mentor, and facilitate the learning process. The real work of learning belongs to the individual child. Because of this, the Montessori educator remains conscious of her role in helping each child to fulfill his potential as a human being and of creating an environment for learning within which children will feel safe, cherished, and empowered.

Facilitate The “Match” Between The Learner And Knowledge: Montessori teachers are trained to identify the best response to the changing interests and needs of each child as a unique individual. Because they truly accept that children learn in many different ways and at their own pace, Montessori educators understand that they must “follow the child,” adjusting their strategies and timetable to fit the development of each of their pupils.

Environmental Engineer: Montessori teachers organize appropriate social settings and academic programs for children at their own level of development. They do this to a large degree through the design of the classroom, selection and organization of learning activities, and structure of the day.

These principles are not limited to Montessorians however. It is explained here that Charlotte Mason felt similarly. Four CM goals:

1) Children should be free in their play.
2) Organized Games are not play. (let them use their imaginations)
3) Personal Initiative in Work. (give them time for their own projects)
4) Children must stand or fall by their own Efforts. (allow children to fail)

These principles are summed up in a term Mason coined, Masterly Inactivity:

Masterly Inactivity is taken up in Volume 3, Chapter 3. The key to avoiding stress for Mom! Train your child, develop Habits, and then let them go. Attention to the training in early years is the key – do not allow children to develop weak or bad habits that must be changed. This is not Unschooling – the child is trained in an area until the parents know that they may be left unsupervised.

From Vol. 1, pg 134; “the education of habit is successful in so far as it enables the mother to let her children alone, not teasing them with perpetual commands and directions; but letting them go their own way and grow, having first secured that they will go the right way and grow to fruitful purpose.”

Therefore this is no willy nilly approach. Thoughtful preparation prefaces the learning, however, ultimately the learning must be done by the student. For the busy homeschool mom this means that you can set the stage at the beginning of the year and the children can soar no matter what life throws at you, and it has thrown a good deal at us over the years – 13 moves, ten pregnancies, twice as many surgeries, deployments. School goes on however and goes on quite smoothly with delightful literature, judicious amounts of drill, music, engaging hands on activities, LOTS of outdoor time, and handwork, which I hope to discuss in greater detail before summer is over.

There are options for all of these that allow mom to jump in and out as needed. They can be done at flexible times of day. Some of our best progress during difficult times with Dad gone, mom in bed, or running back and forth to a hospital were in the quiet evening hours. Think outside the box. Standing before the class daily is not only not possible for many folks but as Montessori and others have discovered it is also one of the least effective techniques. Therefore, don’t feel obligated to recreate this scenario. Don’t feel that you have abandoned teaching or sold out either. It is simply a different road, one which has taken us some truly lovely places.

Note: As a rule it is best to keep everyone in your line of vision even when they are working independently. The younger the child the more crucial this is. Remember the scripture, “Children left to the themselves bring shame to their mothers.” This is where freedom within limits comes in. Keep them busy but keep them close so you can observe carefully for this is the critical component if you are to facilitate effectively. Little foxes spoil the vine. Just as self-correcting material prevents the repetition of academic mistakes, close contact with mom prevents the repetition of undesirable behavior. I have learned the hard way at times so I don’t preach from on high. “An ounce of prevention worth a pound of cure” and all.

Art baskets

Here is an awesome combination of art and independent study. This Montessori mom has been creating baskets of individual artists. She includes a small wee folk figure of the artist, books about the artist, prints of the work, and an object symbolizing that artist. She makes the first presentation at circle time and then the basket returns to the shelf (or windowsill or whatnot) for the children to peruse at their leisure. It is a great spin on the book basket to include multisensory objects to explore along with the books. I would think this would really draw the children in without having a ton of extra lesson presentations. One per term would suffice.

Librivox

Librivox, where have you been all my life? Project Gutenberg and all of its ilk have been beloved to me for some time for providing free access to the classics. Little did I know much of the same content is READ ALOUD on Librivox. Also for free. My favorite.

My favorite radio station doesn’t like Safari so its been quiet in the kitchen. Now I have Librivox for those slow dishes. Lucky woman I am! Not only do I have KP duty company but I just cloned myself for read alouds.