It’s not the pain…

As a mother to a son who shares the same birth defect as Alison Davis, I cannot encourage you enough to read this woman's story.  


"Sometimes it’s not the pain that hurts the most."   

I love you Colin! Even with maroon highlights….. 

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(Colin with nearly asleep Abigeal)

9 thoughts on “It’s not the pain…

  1. What a powerful, and beautiful story! Thank you for sharing that (and the precious photo). I have had rheumatoid arthritis since I was twelve. I don’t know, even at its worst, if I would have described it as absolutely unbearable, but it has definitely been hard to bear at times. I can attest to the fact that the pains I suffered, especially the worst of it in the early years, changed me. I am more compassionate and far less selfish person than I would have been. I have no doubt about that at all. I feel that I have experienced God’s love and grace in a special way because of my RA.
    Assisted suicide is scary and awful in and of itself, but it’s also scary to think of what could come next. Next will it be acceptable to relieve a parent “suffering” through the difficulties of rasing a special needs child? I shudder to think of it.

  2. How nice to see Colin. He has grown to be quite an impressive young adult.
    I had the sad conversation with a relative by marriage in April. Our conversation began with their decision to have their dog put down because of infirmity. And he admitted that he thought he should have that same decision making ability for his own mother who was “becoming a medical burden.”
    My spine tingled, to say the least. My only argument was that by euthanizing someone because of pain or burden, you aren’t eliminating the pain or burden .. just the person. And a person is real, and can never, ever be repeated. How can we assume such a godlike attitude without surrendering what makes us human?

  3. “…I would make it socially acceptable to take one’s own life, and invent machines to make it convenient;
    I would cheapen human life as much as possible so that life of animals are valued more than human beings…”
    – Paul Harvey, If I Were the Devil

  4. both of your babies are beautiful! it is a humbling thing seeing a young baby turn into a young man and see that young man tending tenderly to a baby sibling…sigh!
    Thank you for sharing that story and your witness to the treasure of life!

  5. What an incredible family you have- and what a beautiful witness to God you all are. That photo speaks volumes!

  6. Thankyou for sharing. A clear article on a sometimes complex topic. LOVE CONQUERS ALL!! What a beautiful photo, my she is growing! I’m a sucker for a “baby in daddy’s arms” shots.

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