I read a small book about the counsels of St John of the Cross on the way to Ohio this spring. He wrote under the orders of his superiors. The work therefore is sincere, direct, but not self-indulgent. Though originally written to religious in the sixteenth century his words ring true today. My hope is that they will become something of rule of life for me. The third precaution addresses our tendency to become disquieted by the actions of those around us:
The third precaution is very necessary so you may know how to guard yourself in the community against all harm that may arise in regard to the religious.
Many, by not observing it, not only have lost the peace and good of their souls but have fallen and ordinarily continue to fall into many evils and sins.
It is that you very carefully guard yourself against thinking about what happens in the community, and even more against speaking of it, of anything in the past or present concerning a particular religious: nothing about his or her character or conduct or deeds no matter how serious any of this seems. Do not say anything under the color of zeal or of correcting a wrong, unless at the proper time to whomever by right you ought to tell. Never be scandalized or astonished at anything you happen to see or learn of, endeavoring to preserve your soul in forgetfulness of all that.
For, should you desire to pay heed to things, many will seem wrong, even were you to live among angels, because of your not understanding the substance of them. Take Lot's wife as an example: Because she was troubled at the destruction of the Sodomites and turned her head to watch what was happening, God punished her by converting her into a pillar of salt [Gn. 19:26]. You are thus to understand God's will: that even were you to live among devils you should not turn the head of your thoughts to their affairs, but forget these things entirely and strive to keep your soul occupied purely and entirely in God, and not let the thought of this thing or that hinder you from so doing.
Preserve yourself in forgetfulness.
Starry Sky Journal 
wonderful….seems like it would be good advice to married couples as well. At least, to this married couple. At least, to this married person. hehe.
Thank you, Kim. This is very timely for me as I seem to be struggling with this right now.
Dina