The Giving Tree

This may well go down as the most unusual twist on our weekly theme's at Snapshots Around the World. ; )    

Our firstborn arrived in Germany on Wednesday morning.  Warms my heart.  Due to paperwork glitches and his college schedule it's been way. too. long.   He is now back in the fold for a time.  We have joked that we have "Annoying Orange – the Colin Edition" going on here. ("Colin! Hey Colin! Colin! Colin!")  

With all this excitement and our travel of days before, I ran late linking up to this week's theme of Tree.  That actually is a fine thing because this tree is far more interesting than those in my yard.  Let me back fill a bit.

I was raised with significant input by my grandmother who was quietly opinionated.  One of the things she felt most certain about was that tattoo's were a bad thing.  She rarely said much about it but usually would offer something softly (ie under her breath, with a smile) about "fools names in fool's places…"   Forever after, whenever the subject came up, someone would repeat this refrain, which was echoing in our heads anyway.  

When my own sons came of age we had many discussions about this. I confidently tossed out the same self-assured comments my Gram had made and my sons were…..unimpressed.  They offered back theological and medical defenses.  I returned with very compelling arguments such as "I MADE that skin!" <g>  

Truth is though Colin doesn't have a rebellious bone in his body.  He waited until he was out of the house and had discussed it extensively with us.  But this was one thing he really felt strongly about and in the end he made his own decisions, which we support. After all, this is about growing strong, independent adults rather than perpetual children who are afraid to voice their opinions if they differ from our own. We know they can be respectful and parent-honoring without being little copies of us. 

Now that it's all said and done – and not just one son but two so far - I admit their choices surprised me.  They reflect their beliefs and their passions.  Zach chose his favorite motto in latin and the biblical definition of his name.  Colin has, ahem, a lot of them, all of which are deeply symbolic of his faith and life. One of the most interesting is from a favorite childhood book, The Giving Tree.  I admit it was not one of my favorite reads back then and often I found the plot very painful to work through. (they are quite accustomed to Mom pausing during some of our read alouds to collect herself)  But Colin knows all about pain and suffering and offering both freely and peacefully.  He was born with Spina Bifida which has left him with lifelong challenges which he bears with stoic grace. 

When I think of "tree" I will forever now think of this tree…

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11 thoughts on “The Giving Tree

  1. My second-oldest is 22, gainfully employed, hard-working, independent, a good young man… long hair, ponytail, several tattoos. πŸ˜‰

  2. Oh my, what a wonderful story behind the picture! I pray that somehow we manage to raise my boys to be strong and faithful young men and that I can respect their decisions even though I might not agree with them. What an encouraging post for me, a mom of all younger boys.

  3. I hate tattoes. But that is pretty darned cool. πŸ™‚ If a person must get a tattoo, those are some awesome ones to have. I saw a kid at the pool the other day that had an entire rosary tattoed on his stomach, lol. I thought, well, I guess he can never leave the church, ha!

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